Promise this isn't an ad and sorry if it's already been discussed, couldn't find a rbtea.
Has anyone joined the new FB dating thing?
I and most of my friends have. Seems to be slim pickings in my area and age group.
First guy I spoke to asked for my number almost immediately, I said no and he completely disappeared.
Had a few 'Hi' messages, a couple of pulling teeth type conversations. One guy who can do complete sentences and more my wavelength but I'm not attracted to his pics (a very strong 'creative' look).
Another one who looks right up my street in pics but sent me a message saying 'you look and sound lovely'
Fine in itself but I haven't written anything about myself, and there's no voice recording so I'm guessing he's just blanket sending copied messages to everyone 🙄
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famousforwrongreason · 09/11/2020 05:23
@CodenameVillanelle
Still finding my way around. The benefit for me is that it's free (so far).
They don't match you with fb 'friends' but tells you of you have mutual friends and who they are so easier to have a little fact finding mission prior to chatting.
There's not a massive amount of people on there at the moment in my geographical area so it can feel a bit of a wasteland.
another big bonus for me is that you can block people prior to having spoken to them, for example one who was suggested for me is a nasty misogynist friend of my ex bf, I was able to block him immediately which felt safer than some sites.
An annoyance is that you have to say yes or no to a person's profile before you can move to the next person which is kinda how tinder works but still a bit too much of a decisive action for me
But to counteract that it gives you the chance to trawl through the dross you previously tossed, so could be handy if you swiped too soon but you have to go through the whole pack sometimes before you find the one that got away!
Also like that it's not a separate app and feels less seedy/creepy in some ways as you have a lot more power, it feels more user friendly. There's still creeps on there tho!
It gives opportunity to add link to your instafeed too. One guy has included his ig and it's full of pics of him with another woman!
Lots more of the usual offerings , bad selfies from below, heavy reliance on pics of kids to do the talking and 'if you want to know more just ask' or 'if u write it here we'll have nothing to talk about when we meet'
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One guys profile pic was a really bad close up of fish chips and ketchup.
Lots of guys in Corona masks as well hi speed bikes and lycra stylie.
One who sent me a series of crap 'hows your day?' messages. I replied 'it was good, how about you?' he replied 'it was boring nothing to do'. Instant turn on
Although it's quite basic in many ways, It feels like they've done their research.
I ended up joining. Slim pickings here too, a couple of new faces, but most of the usual suspects from bumble/tinder/hinge.
Also lots of 'looking for my princess' type comments which I find a bit grim.
I have just matched with a very good looking guy but a bit too scared to message (and he hasn't messaged me yet either so...)
@Gilmoregoals
Also lots of 'looking for my princess' type comments which I find a bit grim.
I have just matched with a very good looking guy but a bit too scared to message (and he hasn't messaged me yet either so...
)Eek! Good luck! I have matched with a few but I'm trying not to make first contact this time around as when I do it usually doesn't end well. So there's a few in my matched box but neither of us messaging the other. A nice awkward impasse
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handsome man that liked me was just after casual sex and that's not really my bag; at least he was clear about his intentions I guess.
I have since been liked by a man whose profile pictures consist entirely of him standing next to his car at petrol stations....
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