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to really hate her after these comments?

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sarhasleep Mon 02-Nov-20 10:04:29

I am going through interview processes atm after having completed a professional qual. The professional qual was pretty gruelling and I did have to retake some (which wasnt fun at the time and did make me doubt myself) but Im doing well in the interviews, and have already had a job offer after starting three weeks ago. Unfortunately the day job is super intense (think 15 hour days, 5-7 days a week) which has meant I have asked to reschedule a couple of the interviews due to very intense work commitments.

My sister, who I live with, commented yesterday that I have had to retake multiple exams and am always rescheduling interviews at my own convenience, the implication being that I am stupid, workshy, blah blah blah...

I really hate her. She is only happy when I am down and appears to resent any attempt to better myself. She is not stupid and actually had an oxbridge degree/is going through work interviews herself but (surprise surprise) wont discuss at all with me. She really relished me being made to feel upset.

Any tips on how to handle? Unfortunately we live together

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DiscombobulatedAf Mon 02-Nov-20 10:17:42

Ignore her and don’t discuss work stuff with her anymore. You don’t need any negativity right now

Bunnymumy Mon 02-Nov-20 10:25:51

Move her out.
She sees you as the competition fyi. That's why she is happy when you 'lose' in life.
That isn't someone you want to have in close contact with you. She'll suck all the happiness away from you.

Youd do well to read up on npd as she may even be one of them jerks.

Windmillwhirl Mon 02-Nov-20 10:33:40

Well, she's not supportive is she? Something is behind it. Perhaps she liked being the successful one and she sees your success as encroaching on that.

I'd definitely recommend not living with her as a priority.

Don't invest your energy in hating her. She's not worth it and if could derail you and shift your focus from where it needs to be.

Ohalrightthen Mon 02-Nov-20 10:34:34

...move out?

fabulousathome Mon 02-Nov-20 10:36:55

Just don't tell her anything. She doesn't tell you so it's totally fair.

SoulofanAggron Mon 02-Nov-20 10:40:36

Have as little to do with her as possible, and move out ASAP. xx

Aquamarine1029 Mon 02-Nov-20 10:40:54

Stop giving her ammunition by telling her everything. You live your life and keep away from her. Aside from that, save your money and move out.

sarhasleep Mon 02-Nov-20 10:44:08

Thanks everyone, tbh I was always the successful one and I think she resented it. Now any opportunity she has, she uses minor things to rub it in my face. The prof qual was my first taste of things not going quite my way and she really relished it

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AgentJohnson Mon 02-Nov-20 14:12:19

How does rescheduling equate to being stupid and work shy?

There’s obviously a backstory and she clearly rubs you the wrong way but it’s difficult to reconcile your feelings about what she said with what she actually said.

9ofpentangles Mon 02-Nov-20 14:15:08

Gotta love sibling rivalry!

Bbub Mon 02-Nov-20 17:15:45

Your professional qualification is just as good as anybody who got it without resits, it's the same thing at the end of the day, so please don't doubt yourself.

It's sounds like a really tough situation and she seems jealous and insecure to behave like that, if you hate her though you should definitely plan to move out. your home should be a safe haven not shared with someone you tolerate.

I hate my fucking sister too by the way and space is the only thing that helped me feel OK about things!

TaintForTheLikesOfWe Mon 02-Nov-20 21:58:19

I haven't spoken to my sister in eleven years. She makes my skin crawl. We have never got along. She is only happy if I'm struggling and she has done a lot of terrible things I can never forgive her for. My life is so much nicer without her in it.
Just because you are related to someone doesn't mean to have to take shit from them y'know.

Mydogmylife Mon 02-Nov-20 22:16:45

sarhasleep

Thanks everyone, tbh I was always the successful one and I think she resented it. Now any opportunity she has, she uses minor things to rub it in my face. The prof qual was my first taste of things not going quite my way and she really relished it

Not excusing her AT ALL by the way, but were you by any chance the golden child in the family?

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