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I've got no friends(9 Posts)
I had friends at school. We grew apart as adults.
Then I had friends through work. But they were wild and much more outgoing than me. I went out a couple of times with them. I had the odd meal out and a couple of them became people I saw out of work. But then one of them was sending makes pictures to my partner just after we split. I have a couple of them on my Facebook but there's no relationship their now.
Then I had my children. Around the age of 26 I decided I couldn't be friends with a women I'd known from being 18. Pre kids we got on well. But we were so different from a parenting point of view. I started dreading meeting her and our kids were not clicking so I pulled away.
I made a new friend at this stage. She's still my friend now. We have gone through parenting together and she's solid and kind. Always there for a chat. We were always on the school runs together and things. But since covid I've only seen her 3 times and Its all phone calls and messages at the moment. We did playgroup etc together with our kids.
I was hoping to get to know people at the school gates but with masks and queues at set gates its hard.
I've got my partner and kids. Sometimes I see my parents but again with covid it's hit and miss. Although my sister's visiting with her kids.
I just feel abit of a loner and I don't have opportunities to meet anyone.
I do find it hard whilst having little kids to make plans. Everyone's busy or working.
Is it normal to be a Billy no mates.
I have a couple of regular online friends too. But they live abit too far away to meet.
I only have a handful of friends too and COVID has made it so much harder to be in touch with them. I think a lot of people feel very lonely at the moment. Sending you a hug x
I literally have no friends as in none..
I have come to terms with being a billy no mate.
I’m coming to terms with having no one as I get older. I had friends when the kids were little but now they’re all older we just don’t bother. I have no friends, no family. It’s just my DH and the kids. Not very healthy.
There's another thread on a similar theme - if you want to go there you'd be welcome.
OP, I made an effort at the school gates, ignoring someone who warned me about "school mums".
I HAVE met a couple of really lovely genuine people that way.
However, I also met someone who I considered to be a good friend and basically set out to segregate me from the group, for reasons I still don't fully understand, and the emotional upset from that took me a long time to get over.
I think that because you are back in a school environment, some people regress, and you have the inevitable cliques.
I'm not saying, don't look for friends there, I'm just tying to say be wary, and also, in a way reassure you that in some respects, you really aren't missing out.
Ultimately, the thing I have in common with the majority of them, is that our kids go to the same school, and that's where it begins and ends.
I don't have many friends, but I'm big on loyalty, and would rather have quality over quantity.
I think that sometimes, especially with social media, on the outside it can look like others have loads of friends, and are having the times of their lives together, when the reality can be somewhat different.
I have quite a few acquaintances, but real, true friends, I can count on one hand , and even amongst them, I have had let downs and disappointments, but I guess that's par for the course.
I am also the person who used to make all the effort and then be left disappointed, but now I ty and strike more of a balance, have lowered my expectations a bit, and don't try and make all of the effort, because it leads to disappointment and, if you're not careful, resentment.
I don't think there are many opportunities to meet and make new friends at the moment, which can be tricky, but perhaps it's just a case that you haven't found your tribe yet.
At the end of the day, your very best friend is always going to be yourself :-)
I have no friends. Not even one.
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