Please tell me AIBU. I'm driving myself nuts and dick of overthinking
My other half and I rent a lovely home 50:50. He is legally divorced but the financials are still subject to legals. He has no kids but is still paying huge amount for matrimonial home plus salary to ex wife who refuses to engage with legal proceedings to close it off. I am divorced with 2 teens; 1 lives with us permanently and 1 approx one-third of the week. I don't receive maintenance or child benefit (due to new partners earning level).
I'm on approx 32k full time salary. He is in much much more but obviously still has other financial commitments.
I need a new car. Mine is literally a shed on wheels and now at the stage where I need to spend a good proportion of its value in maintaining it (currently 2 new wheels which is about a third of the value of the car ☹️). My other half has company lease vehicles (his firm) and on Friday announced this weekend he is taking delivery of a car worth over £150k - albeit on lease. He says we can 'share'. We can't. He has a 40 mile daily commute.
He doesn't understand why I'm upset and keeps referring to us as a team when I feel anything but. To finance a secondhand car or a lease car would swallow a third of my disposable income after housing costs. I can't justify that with kids to support.
Whilst he doesn't owe me anything I feel like the poor relation. Albeit the poor relation who has occasional use of a ridiculously fancy car,
What should I do? Would you be upset? Am I a spoilt brat?
I'm dreading the new car arriving as I'll have to be happy for him
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Cars, cash and boyfriends
courtrai · 27/10/2020 10:53
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