Bear with me, this is likely to be long and rambly. Have a bit of spare time and have been navel gazing....
I'm late 40s. Had a fair few relationships. Been married more than once and for the last 7 years I've been single on and off and been dating. I don't tend to struggle to meet people but sustaining a long term relationship has proved trickier. I am generally the one to end things (including my marriages but one of those was abusive and the other involved repeated infidelity so I have no qualms about having ended those).
So I'm currently with DP - been together for around 18 months and again I find myself thinking about ending it.
He ticks so many boxes in terms of how he treats me. He's kind, respectful, generous, supportive, loving, honest and generally a very decent person. However, I don't necessarily particularly enjoy our time together. The sex is good but the conversation bores me. We don't have many interests in common (and in a non covid world we'd probably be off doing our separate things sometimes and our time together might then feel less "dull" I suppose??). I sometimes feel a little embarrassed by him in company/public and generally I just feel slightly irritated by him
I do enjoy my own company and time with my dcs but I would also like to be in a committed long term relationship.
Am I being too fussy? Is it unrealistic to expect a relationship with someone who treats me well AND who I love spending time with? Have I just got too used to being on my own and become unable to happily share my life with someone? Or is it just (another!) case of him not being right for me?
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Am I too fussy?
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ED47 · 27/10/2020 10:30
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