I've been with DP for 15 years. The last 5 years have been hard. He's relapsed into depression, drinks 2 bottles of wine most nights and doesn't pay towards the mortgage or bills. We're like lodgers who barely see each other, no sex, no affection, no real conversations. Every attempt I make is knocked back.
Whenever I've tried to talk to him about how lonely I am and how hard it is to work full time (I'm HOY in a secondary school), plus do all the cooking, cleaning, shopping at home while he works 2 hours a week and does no housework, he just goes quiet and says he feels too low to even talk about it. He says things like 'just can't take it any more' and doesn't know what he'll do without me, but makes no effort to make things better.
I feel so trapped and worried about what he might do to himself. I've felt so unwanted and so ugly that I tried posting pictures of myself on an anonymous photo sharing app to try and boost my confidence. I get the chance to chat with men who are interested in me... but I know it's wrong and then feel so guilty about it.
How do I sort the situation out without causing harm?
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ginglebellsginglebells · 26/10/2020 17:05
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