Red flag or overreaction

[GeekyGirl42]

3 years ago I arranged a date with someone and they stood me up. They called 6 months later to rearrange and I told them to go away (was in a relationship).

5am this morning they ring twice!!!!! Had no idea who it was. They call again at 11am. They want a date with me today. I say no. Tomorrow then? I say still not.

Now, I am terrible at weeding out nutcases, but this is red flags everywhere, right?

[LaVitaPuoEsserePiuBella]

Yes, of course! You don't even need to ask. If anything, he sounds unhinged/deluded.
I'd block his number.

[AlmondOil]

I'm astounded you even need to ask.

[Bunnymumy]

Dude is a lunatic.

His sense of entitlement is mind boggling.

He'd be getting a 'stop contacting me you utter freak' from me.

[Givemeabreak88]

Really

[NonsensicalHair]

Are you still in a relationship? He's definitely the man for you, if not. So keen! That's a good sign! Defintely go on a date with him, I can't forsee any problems AT ALL.

[DianaT1969]

He sounds perfectly normal. Who on MN doesn't call a stranger at 5am for an urgent date?

[MMmomDD]

Not a red flag as you aren’t in a relationship.
This is just some mental case you did well to avoid.

[Queenoftheashes]

Jesus Christ block them

[formerbabe]

I'd genuinely assume they had some sort of drug or alcohol problem.

Block...obviously

[Sidge]

The fact you’re even asking this suggests you shouldn’t be dating...

[EarthSight]

He sounds mental or thick. Block him. No one reasonable, including night owls, calls someone at 5am and expects them to have a conversation. Would you?

[TinyGhost]

He sounds unhinges. Do not respond.

[Honeyandapple]

Just block right now

[Scorpiowoman80]

If this is serious then just block him.

[Sexnotgender]

Ye gads, definitely block. That's a whole lot of red flags.

[RantyAnty]

Have you blocked him yet?

[GeekyGirl42]

He's blocked. Pleased I did because after saying "I'm busy all day with friends" I got another phone call (got sent straight to voicemail)..

[AlmondOil]

Tbh, I can't believe you even relied to him!

I went on one date with someone about 6 years ago. Completely forgot his number was on my phone (and him tbh). 12 months later, he messaged asking how I was, saying he thought of me often and he'd like us to try again (it was one date!)

So I blocked him. Didn't need to come on to MN to ask. Didn't even need to think about it.

Honestly, some people are their own worst enemy!

Why on earth did you respond??

[Captnip500]

OBVIOUSLY this guy is not someone you should have in your life. He sounds like a nut job. Who the hell rings someone at that time in the morning and expects to arrange a date? And after standing you up too! It’s disrespectful and weird.

OP, don’t take this the wrong way, but if it isn’t crystal clear to you that this guy is a creep who you should have nothing to do with, then I think it might be worth having a think about what behaviour you accept from people.

[AlmondOil]

Especially as he stood her up 3 years ago!!

[BlackeyedSusan]

bloody hell, more red flags thatn a communist may day parade.

be careful.

[OldWomanSaysThis]

Drunk and dick is hard and he is going through his phone contacts looking for a place to put it.

[Aquamarine1029]

Shocking that you even had to ask. Of course he's unhinged.

[nosswith]

I hope all the other women he called took the same action.

[Orkneys]

Definitely red flag.