Red flag or overreaction

(29 Posts)
GeekyGirl42 Sun 25-Oct-20 12:18:15

3 years ago I arranged a date with someone and they stood me up. They called 6 months later to rearrange and I told them to go away (was in a relationship).

5am this morning they ring twice!!!!! Had no idea who it was. They call again at 11am. They want a date with me today. I say no. Tomorrow then? I say still not.

Now, I am terrible at weeding out nutcases, but this is red flags everywhere, right?

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LaVitaPuoEsserePiuBella Sun 25-Oct-20 12:21:19

Yes, of course! You don't even need to ask. If anything, he sounds unhinged/deluded.
I'd block his number.

AlmondOil Sun 25-Oct-20 12:24:49

I'm astounded you even need to ask.

Bunnymumy Sun 25-Oct-20 12:30:47

Dude is a lunatic.

His sense of entitlement is mind boggling.

He'd be getting a 'stop contacting me you utter freak' from me.

Givemeabreak88 Sun 25-Oct-20 12:32:00

Really thlconfused

NonsensicalHair Sun 25-Oct-20 12:44:00

Are you still in a relationship? He's definitely the man for you, if not. So keen! That's a good sign! Defintely go on a date with him, I can't forsee any problems AT ALL.

DianaT1969 Sun 25-Oct-20 12:58:42

He sounds perfectly normal. Who on MN doesn't call a stranger at 5am for an urgent date?


MMmomDD Sun 25-Oct-20 13:13:56

Not a red flag as you aren’t in a relationship.
This is just some mental case you did well to avoid.

Queenoftheashes Sun 25-Oct-20 13:15:02

Jesus Christ block them

formerbabe Sun 25-Oct-20 13:17:06

I'd genuinely assume they had some sort of drug or alcohol problem.


Sidge Sun 25-Oct-20 13:19:32

The fact you’re even asking this suggests you shouldn’t be dating...

EarthSight Sun 25-Oct-20 13:28:12

He sounds mental or thick. Block him. No one reasonable, including night owls, calls someone at 5am and expects them to have a conversation. Would you?

TinyGhost Sun 25-Oct-20 13:30:45

He sounds unhinges. Do not respond.

Honeyandapple Sun 25-Oct-20 13:38:01

Just block right now

Scorpiowoman80 Sun 25-Oct-20 13:53:20

If this is serious then just block him.

Sexnotgender Sun 25-Oct-20 14:00:51

Ye gads, definitely block. That's a whole lot of red flags.

RantyAnty Sun 25-Oct-20 14:27:52

Have you blocked him yet?

GeekyGirl42 Sun 25-Oct-20 14:45:15

He's blocked. Pleased I did because after saying "I'm busy all day with friends" I got another phone call (got sent straight to voicemail)..

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AlmondOil Sun 25-Oct-20 14:58:08

Tbh, I can't believe you even relied to him!

I went on one date with someone about 6 years ago. Completely forgot his number was on my phone (and him tbh). 12 months later, he messaged asking how I was, saying he thought of me often and he'd like us to try again (it was one date!)

So I blocked him. Didn't need to come on to MN to ask. Didn't even need to think about it.

Honestly, some people are their own worst enemy!

Why on earth did you respond??

Captnip500 Sun 25-Oct-20 15:17:43

OBVIOUSLY this guy is not someone you should have in your life. He sounds like a nut job. Who the hell rings someone at that time in the morning and expects to arrange a date? And after standing you up too! It’s disrespectful and weird.

OP, don’t take this the wrong way, but if it isn’t crystal clear to you that this guy is a creep who you should have nothing to do with, then I think it might be worth having a think about what behaviour you accept from people.

AlmondOil Sun 25-Oct-20 15:26:49

Especially as he stood her up 3 years ago!!

BlackeyedSusan Sun 25-Oct-20 15:53:08

bloody hell, more red flags thatn a communist may day parade.

be careful.

OldWomanSaysThis Sun 25-Oct-20 15:55:57

Drunk and dick is hard and he is going through his phone contacts looking for a place to put it.

Aquamarine1029 Sun 25-Oct-20 15:57:32

Shocking that you even had to ask. Of course he's unhinged.

nosswith Sun 25-Oct-20 16:17:16

I hope all the other women he called took the same action.

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