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Prostitution ...(7 Posts)
Hey ladies I posted a couple of days ago explaining how I’ve separated from the father of my 3 children and 11 year relationship due to a multitude of reasons and I’m now trying to deal with the hurt and move on . What I find Hardest is the contact with prostittues he had although he denies ever going ahead With meeting them I think he probably did and I wish I could just get closure on how terrible it makes me feel. Does anyone have any experience in partners or friends partners seeing/contacting prostittues ?
My ex came back from a boys golfing weekend and told me all about how his co-golfers had visited a brothel both nights. That he hadn't of course but that there really wasn't anything wrong with it, that it was very safe and purely a financial transaction......
That was too much for me. Just the thought of using another human being like that made me feel sick.
I don't have any personal experience but a family friend does. She found messages that indicated her husband had planned to meet a prostitute but he denied he had gone ahead with it. They moved forward and 12 months later it transpires he had been sleeping with them regularly and had given her an sti. He had been doing it for years.
Him telling you he catergorily did meet with them won't make any difference to the situation so just accept you've seen enough to say he has and instead use the energy to move forward with your children.
My husband denied he went through with it, that was the story 3 days after I found the messages with his disgusting order (I walked out immediately). The messages included an apology that he was running late, and then her giving him the room number. So I could track him to her door, but then apparently he turned around and didn't go through with it. Some male friends told me that once at the door, having thought about sex for an hour, it was highly unlikely he turned around.
Earlier that day he withdrew 250 in cash from the ATM, the following day he needed to pay eftpos for a purchase worth 20. Where was all the cash then?? Check his banking activity, that will give you more of a clue.
Did you leave him for good ? Did he ever admit it ?
@Lora88 I have sent you a private message x