Hi
This may be long sorry.. i have been on and off with my partner for nearly 4 years now. Both have no children I am 29 and he is 32. I live alone and him with family.
At first things were great I thought I’d met the ‘one’ but then cracks started to show I guess small red flags that I ignored and are now the root cause of our problems today.
Without going in to all the stuff that has happened over the years as it will take to long I now think probably over the last year has started to become emotionally abusive.. for example if I’m upset about something he’s done he will tell me I’m deluded I am going nuts he told me once I am troubled and I have mental health issues ( I have anxiety)
I feel he gaslights me and when I bring up something he has genuinely done wrong he will turn it on me and say I’m over thinking it or it’s my anxiety.
I work from home and have done since March where as he has worked throughout the pandemic .. he now says things like ‘ working from home is driving you mad’ he says all these things when he’s done something wrong and I call him out on it.
Our sex life isn’t great I feel he shows no interest at all. I brought this up with him the other day to which he said ‘ your not feeling great about yourself lately so that’s not helping ‘ I’ve put on a bit of weight during lockdown as most ppl have .. and he knows I self concious about it but that’s nothing to do with him not touching me !
He never used to be like this but now I can’t say anything to him without him using something I’ve told him against me.
He blows hot and cold one day he will be ringing FaceTiming messaging and be really happy then the next day he won’t even answers my calls or texts.. sometimes disappears after work and reappears the next day and says he has fallen asleep ( I know how this looks and what ppl will say)
He’s decided to blow hot and cold this weekend and I confronted him about it. He has now currently blocked me on everything
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Is this emotional abuse ?
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Roselilly300 · 18/10/2020 23:54
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