My stbx husband walked out on me and my daughters two years ago. He was having an affair, although he denies this he didn’t admit it once.
Anyway, things where very heated when we split, I did things I wasn’t proud of, but nothing crazy. I sent the OW messages about how upset I was that she perused a married man with two kids etc. He said awful things to me and vice versa. Things with the OW didn’t last and I feel that he probs blames me for this.
Anyway things have been ok for 6 months in terms of there has been no arguing and no nasty words exchanged.
I asked him last night about an Xmas present that I wanted to pre order and if he had already done this. He replied saying he didn’t want a conversation with me, to stop messaging that he doesn’t want to be my friend as to much has happened and he does not want things to become over familiar.
Says things like he doesn’t want to spend the night backwards and forwards messaging me (that never happens)
I’m just so confused. I’m not trying to be his friend and purely communicate when it is about the kids.
I don’t know If it’s me who’s the bitter one? Should I even be asking him what his getting the kids for Xmas? Is that to much communication?
I don’t feel like I’m forcing conversations, and just didn’t want to waste £100, but then I could have just returned the gift.
Whenever we communicate about the kids, his short and snappy and rude.
I just don’t know what to do for the best. I don’t want my kids to constantly see the relationship between me and there dad is toxic.
Any suggestions, sorry I get that I’m rambling.
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Highrise88 · 09/10/2020 18:40
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