H left about 3 weeks ago and I have maintained low contact despite numerous texts and emails offering 'help'. Learnt that lesson.
He has form for initiating contact using health - notably when he phoned me to say that the mother of the woman at work he had left me for had ovarian cancer when things in his new life were going sour. Maybe he thinks this worked as initial contact because he did manage to wheedle his way back in 20 years ago.
Anyway, this followed the first weekend my teenage son said he was busy and there was no contact. He has come here to collect him previously. Son is never ready and I end up hosting H who also has things to collect, a bone for the dog, chocolates for me!
Today he phoned because he thinks he has symptoms of bladder cancer. He says he has been to the GP and is awaiting test results and may be referred to urology. He kept repeating stats of 1 in 5 with his symptoms have cancer and survival rates dependant on stage. With a catch in his voice and thanking me for speaking to him.
On those stats 80% of me is thinking chinney reckon and a 99.5% of me is thinking this is par for the course. But damn that 0.5% that is thinking, you heartless bitch, this is the father of your DC.
Any advice?
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Cancer scare or hoovering?
HelpLeaving · 07/10/2020 15:48
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