So I'm having alot of problems with my DH at the moment. I'm thinking of leaving him on the grounds of psychological and emotional abuse (although I can't decide whether it is abuse or just his personality in general)
Basically, he's not been very nice to me at all for a long time.
Together 9 years
Married 3
1 DS - 21 months old
I'm really struggling with my feelings towards him. But that's another thread for discussion.....
However one of my pet hates about him is how he communicates about Sex!!
We used to have a healthy sex life, but nothing unusual for a new relationship. By the time we moved in together (2 years in) it had started to dwindle. Mainly because that's when his true personality started to show and if I'm honest, I've fancied him less and less as time has gone on. There was a period that we were both working very long hours so that is also partly to blame but really, I have a much younger brother who at the time would make very crude comments about sex. Funny when they are coming out of a 21 year olds mouth but not so much when my DH of 32 starts trying to copy but doesn't quite understand when enough is enough and takes it too far to the point it just starts sounding ridiculous, and immature.
I have tried to tell him he takes it too far but in his usual way, he gets extremely defensive and nasty.
Sex has become almost non existent for us in recent years and I've even admitted to him that I didn't want him touching me until he could treat me better. He never seems to take anything that I say on board. And for the first time in a while, I finally had sex with him about a month ago and ever since he keeps making the comments again.
He gets nasty when I say I don't want it. He regularly asks whether we are having sex tonight so he can have a wash if we are, which is obviously a mood killer in itself.
And has started with the crude over the top comments like, whilst he's bathing our son and I say I'll jump in the shower after,
'oooo yeh you wanna wash cos I'm going to bang your vagina tonight'.
He also can't help but grab me from behind or from the front and starts banging his bits against me as if we're having sex.
I'm sorry but I'm just so put off and fed up.
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What would you do if your DH said this?
Unicorns87 · 28/09/2020 18:36
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