Hi everyone!
Just looking for a bit of support and tips for how you get through the period of divorce when nothing is really happening and life is pretty horrible.
I’ve filed the divorce papers and just waiting to exchange form Es at the moment so we can sort out financial settlements.
My STBEx has kind of partially moved out (pretty much comes and goes as he pleases) but every single time he comes he literally cannot stop himself from ranting on about how he’s paid for everything (He is currently compiling a spreadsheet of every item he has paid for during our 18 years together), how I’m going to take everything, how I am or will stop him seeing his children, how he hates money grabbers like me, how he will spend every penny he has taking me to court if I get a penny he doesn’t think I’m due, how I’ve got to move out and leave the kids with him, it goes on and on.
Spends a lot of time berating me about how I won’t discuss it (I’m trying to go grey rock). How he wants me to do a proposal of how much I think he should give me (that is not a discussion I am having with him).
I work full time from home and on the days he is here it is literally impossible to concentrate.
Anyway, it’s bloody miserable. Things take so long and it doesn’t feel like we are getting any further forward. I’m finding it really frustrating and dreaming of the day I can shut a front door he can’t walk through. Any tips for getting through it?
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sophmum31 · 28/09/2020 13:05
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