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Word of comfort(6 Posts)
After 14 years married I asked my husband to leave as he failed to finish his affair with another woman after repeated requests from myself to do so. I know in my heart that this was 100% the right decision. I am so terrified and devastated. Devastated at the loss of a 23 year relationship and terrified at finding myself alone the wrong side of 40. I’m worried that my 13 y/o son has taken it on himself to comfort me when it should be me looking after him. I just need someone to tell me it does get better, I will be ok. I have never felt so utterly alone.
You will be okay. Take it an hour at a time.
It takes time. You have a lovely ds,find things to do with him and build new memories.
I,m so sorry your going through this OP.
How long have you been requesting he ends the affair?
Has he admitted the affair?
I ask this as It sounds like he has been playing the pick me dance for a while. No doubt the decision to end this relationship has been dumped on you and engineered to make him still appear the victim.
I maybe wrong but someone who doesn,t put you first is not worth pissing on.
Sending hugs to you and your son.
Hope you will be okay. It takes a long time, but eventually you will look back and see how much better it is without someone who makes you unhappy in your life.
I'm sorry you're going through this @Sooz127.
My marriage ended after an affair too.
It was only 15 years, and we didn't have children, but I was on the other side of 30 and terrified at starting again.
It was hell. It felt like it would never get better. I feel like I must have driven friends mad going round in circles of heartbreak conversations.
At some point it does get better though. And after that, I found I'd never been happier when I was no longer questioning what he was really up to.
Be kind to yourself.
Give yourself time, and do what ever you need to so you get through each day. x
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