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What would you do?(7 Posts)
So i might be being really unreasonable or overreacting here, but I am heavily pregnant and emotional so please be gentle!
Long story short, I woke up this morning and rolled over towards my DP and went back to sleep. When I woke again and opened my eyes he was lying in bed with his phone in front of him scrolling through various things etc, nothing shady. But when he typed into his search bar for something, his ex's name came up - obviously being a bit blurry eyed I couldn't make out exactly what it was so i couldn't see if it was a text or a search history or something but he's always told me that he has zero contact with any ex's and they're all blocked on everything etc. This is a new ish phone as well so no reason to have any trace of her on it...? Is there?
I know I'm probably being silly and over taken by my hormones but it's bothering me now and I don't know how or if I should bring it up and ask, I don't want to look through his phone or anything but it's niggling in my head and I don't know how to feel better about it... what would you do?
Thank you x
I'd have to look at the phone secretly . I just would . I'd need to know 😬 might be nothing but my bet is he was googling her 🙄
Is his ex an ex wife and do they have children ? If not then I would be interested to know why he had her on his list of contacts tbh
@Iloveme30 I know, I feel like that's the only option I have. Being pregnant as well I really need to know if something is going on and I just don't know if he'd tell the truth... he's also usually got his phone right next to him at all times so it's difficult to see it unless he's using it in front of me...
@Anordinarymum no she's an ex girlfriend and they didn't have kids, I'm pregnant with his first and only! So yeah it definitely bothers me why her name would come up on his phone at all, we've been together for 2 years... so strange and it's getting to me!
My ex did exactly this, when I was pregnant as well.
He was messaging his ex, to say he misses her and he was single
Then off he ran, into the sunset with her.
No loss, now I look back.
I would try to have a look on his phone. I did, and found lots and lots of messages.
Your DP, may just be looking her up at this stage, but I wouldn't be overly happy with that anyway.
@Bygone so sorry to hear this happened to you. I really don't understand why people can't just be honest with their intentions and especially when you're having their baby! How awful. I hope you're doing ok now. I have no idea when I'll get the chance to have a look but it's just going to annoy me until then I think
I should also probably add it was the search bar on his general phone (app search ) it wasn't google or anything.
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