The husband has always been notoriously bad at planning or even thinking about dates, even years ago when we first started getting together he didn't wine and dine me, we used to sit at my house watching movies and I suggested the first dinner out.
I am a planner and love organising however over the years I've expressed on many many occasions that I would appreciate if once in a while he'd organise something and take me on a date. You can imagine my disappointment when before we went on our honeymoon I asked if he could organise something for a nice date (whilst I planned and organised our whole wedding) and the date never happened and I had to organise and book everything.
This year isn't the best let's be honest and I've been stuck at home since March working to unachievable targets, in an unachievable sales job, on a large salary cut that's at least for a year, working for a very results expectant boss and have felt the stress to say the least; I've been stuck at home all day and night, with no money to do anything, plan anything, go anywhere but not once this year even amongst the beautiful weather we've had has the husband suggested or planned a walk, picnic, dinner etc or wanted to do anything. He finds time for golf, games consoles, beers and dinners friends but I just feel very left behind and as if I don't really matter.
Today I decided to talk to him about it again and said i have expressed many times that every now and then it would be nice if he could "date" me. I don't want diamonds or handbags (as nice as they'd be ) but I just want to feel a bit valued, special or worth something from time to time, especially when I'm feeling so crappy. Low and behold he has got defensive saying he's working hard to pay for our house (we split everything down the middle).
He does work hard but he also has a lot of free time too that he spends doing the things he wants whilst I'm a hermit stuck at home.
FYI - I have dated him and always will, this year I've been limited due to money but I've still made bbqs for when he gets home, or cooked dinner to take out for a picnic, taken him out for breakfast etc - I don't expect it to always be one way.
What is everyone's thoughts and feelings on being dated by your husbands/partners/wives etc, am I being to selfish for wanting this or does he need to pull his finger out?
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Date night? Am I asking too much?
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wannabemumma88 · 23/09/2020 21:25
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