I'll try and keep this as short as I can. I've done previous posts but NC and will put it all in 1.
So I met a guy 4 years ago.. Amazing..ivw done more with him than I have in my last 20 years of dating. After around a year we had the moving in together chat. He was happy and excited and the plan was for him to move my way. We have a 45 min commute as we are.
After a while he decided he wasn't willing to move my way.. The convo fell flat, I was gutted.
Fast forwarding and I broach and say the only alternative was me to move his way. Something I'm not adverse to but requires a lot more work than it would him in a way.
And on its gone. Nothing from him in terms of moving things on. When I broach it turns into him bring up reasons and what I feel are excuses. I get upset, we fall out. The majority of our relationship is great aside from this.
So queue this weekend and it all kicks off again. He says hes really happy for me to move his way.. That he can think of nothing better.. But then comes the 'we can't afford to buy a house' 'what about your job' 'what about x, y & z' of course he's being sensible but? I'm a big girl, I know how a house move works and am willing to put the work in.. I don't feel he is (as much as he says he is)
SO..I call his bluff and tell him we need to start looking at property's (incidentally he's said it has to be in a literal area) and lo and behold of course we can't afford a house. There was going to be help from his family (as far as I'm aware still OK) but realistically it's not going to work.
I feel so sad that I have to walk away from a person I love and thought I'd grow old with because of no compromise.. And I know that's what you'll all tell me.. Its all me doing the work😔
Obviously there's more to it but I'm exhausted by it all.
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GRIC14 · 22/09/2020 08:56
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