Going to a refuge

[notsohothotchoc]

Please tell me they're not that bad and that I won't be there long

[category12]

There was a thread by someone who went into one who described her experience, it was pinned for a while. I can't quite remember what it was called, but I'll have a think if I can find it.

They're not bad places. I work for a HA which also has a couple of refuges and the support workers I know are absolutely lovely people. You'll be safe and able to work out your next steps.

[Autumn1122]

Hi, I've been in a refuge. Mine was a self contained 2 bed flat in a compound with other flats and the workers in the same building. It really wasn't awful. Obviously not ideal but I was safe and had a big kitchen, dining area, lounge, bathroom with shower and bath. 2 bedrooms. We got donations of food such as veg and bread for free. Clothes donations if you had no clothes too.

[category12]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/936487-For-anyone-desperate-to-leave-an-abusive-relationship-but-reluctant Here it is.

[Autumn1122]

Also the compound was gated and you could only enter with a fob. Panic buttons were everywhere in the building. The workers helped. You do everything

[Justcallmebebes]

My daughter went into one a couple of years ago. She was heavily pregnant with 2 toddlers. It was a self contained unit with 2 bedrooms and its own bathroom and kitchenette. Small but clean and adequate. It was secure and had staff on hand 24/7. She's now in a lovely 3 bed property with garden in a lovely area with a new boyfriend who is lovely and v v kind. She has never been happier. She had some difficult times but it was more than worth it for where she is now. Good luck x

[notsohothotchoc]

I'm so upset at having to go tomorrow I'm dreading it

[PersonaNonGarter]

This is when things start to get better OP. Well done on taking this step.

[LockdownLoopy]

You’re doing what’s best for you! You have a brand new chapter ahead of you, one free of unhappiness and fear. Refuges are not as bad as you’re imagining, all will be great. Well done on getting yourself out

[allinadaystwerk]

A refuge is better than being scared in your own home. Focus on the safety and freedom from abuse more than your surroundings. Look forward and see the refuge a step closer to a better life. You will be fine.

[category12]

It's scary taking that step, but it's on a path to a safer happier life. It's a stepping stone. You can do this.

[FastAndCurious]

I promise you it won’t be that bad, you’re doing the right thing and it’s temporary.

This is the first step to a happier, safer future for you. I wish you all the luck in the world x