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Weety100 · 15/09/2020 02:55

So just found out my other half has been hiding messages from me, one from a friend of 20 years who has recently split from her husband and one from someone he hardly knows friend of friend really. He said he's done it on purpose to see if I'm snooping! I have no issue with friends at all as long as honesty but we don't seem to have any of that.do you think he's saying this to turn it in me?

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rainbowninja · 15/09/2020 02:58

Sounds a bit odd! What were the messages about? And why would he want to see if you were snooping?

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Weety100 · 15/09/2020 03:01

We have trust issues anyway has this has happened before. With the none friend all messages deleted do I don't know. With the friend nothing sexual but they are all day every day while he at work then stops before he gets home and both messages muted. Mainly just general chit chat from what I've seen but if that's it why hide it? He actually found out I knew about messages last week but didn't tell me he knew like I didn't tell him.

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rainbowninja · 15/09/2020 03:07

Do you mean he's cheated before? Or sent Msgs? I'm not sure how he could set this up just to see if you were snooping?

It'd make me uncomfortable too if my husband had a female friend I didn't know about and they were chatting all day.

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Weety100 · 15/09/2020 03:11

Apparently he wanted to see if I was looking on his FB, so he stated messaging some random to see if I'd say something. Yes I've looked before because this has happened before. Never cheated as far as I know.

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rainbowninja · 15/09/2020 03:21

It does sound a bit off, if he's got nothing to hide then why delete messages and why not offer you reassurance instead of making excuses and saying he did it to set you up? It makes it sound more suspicious?

Either way, it doesn't speak well of your relationship. Have you been together a long time?

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Weety100 · 15/09/2020 03:24

4 years and have a 3 year old. Exactly what I said why hide. I just think he's made excuse because he's been caught.

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Weety100 · 15/09/2020 03:39

I know what I've done is illegal , as he keeps telling me! But surely relationship wise he's in the wrong

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Aquamarine1029 · 15/09/2020 03:44

All of this nonsense is ridiculous. Both of you sound like 13 year olds. If you don't trust him, leave him. All of these games and snooping is absurd.

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MashedSweetSpud · 15/09/2020 03:50

Sounds like an excuse to me.

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category12 · 15/09/2020 06:05

Bullshit. He's turning this on you to wrongfoot and confuse you. Your relationship is buggered.

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