I’m mid thirties, I have worked in an office since I was 26. Quite literally, with each new male supervisor/team I have worked in, I have had some sort of questionable conduct from them.
I won’t list them all but the latest is a male supervisor whose team I have moved to since lockdown as there is more work in his department. This has ALL been done remotely and so we have only spoken via the phone, video call and on the work messenger facility - all of which is used regularly for work reasons across the company.
I work in a profession that is male dominated at the top - though this is slowly changing. I am no oil painting, I don’t believe I give the impression I want this sort of behaviour but the latest message to my work mobile tonight (following me being off this afternoon due to a migraine) has been; ‘hi, how’s your head? Hope you are tucked up in bed ms user.’
Earlier in the day we had discussed meeting for coffee with clients in a couple of weeks, to which he then said perhaps we should stay over? I don’t believe this was said innocently as there is no reason for us to!
This has been a theme throughout my career. I’ve had men suggest things, be overtly sexual around me, make a move at events, list goes on. I am often told by male and females that I am flirty with people...I don’t see this, I enjoy banter at work and generally have a high threshold for offence, so I wonder if I give the impression that I am ok with these things? I don’t see why being friendly and smiley is an invitation to inappropriate behaviour, though.
Has anyone else experienced this? I really dislike it and can’t believe that it has continued into my thirties, it is insulting and makes me feel like women are seen as men’s playthings. I’m almost certain this new supervisor wouldn’t have messaged a male member of staff about their headache!
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User163639 · 14/09/2020 21:16
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