Would you call the police? Please help

[Hopelesslydevoted0]

my boyfriend is being mentally abusive tonight and I don't know what I should do. Im crying, I can't put up with him bullying me any more. He is nasty and narcissistic and he is ruining my life. Tonight I got dressed up for him coming home, makeup etc. Was dancing around sipping wine and flirting while he called the curry. He "cunt punted" me when i was trying to be flirty. He then commented that the woman on TV was beautiful. I tried to hug him standing up and he grappled me in a wrestling move. I am very very depressed and have been trying to be a new version of me, basically the old me who was elegant and playful and joyful. He made me feel masculine and small. I went to my room, he followed half an hour later, he made me tell him why I left. I didnt want to tell him because he fights with me and gaslights me when i do. He forced me to tell him, I told him im trying to be who I used to be and that he made me feel unwanted and rubbish with the wrestling etc. He then told me I wasn't who I used to be and I dont act like who I want to be. He tore me apart. I'm in bits. He just keeps going. What do I do im ruined and so unhappy. I feel that I'll never be me again.

[slipperywhensparticus]

Cunt punted?

[honeyytoast]

Hi, sorry I don’t really have any good advice but I’m so sorry to hear this - if you feel physically intimidated or threatened absolutely call the police. If not, is there anyone else you can call to pick you up or something?

[BabetteAteOtemeal]

I'm not sure about police but this relationship definitely needs to end. He sounds truly awful and you deserve much better.

Also not sure what cunt punching is!

[JamieLeeCurtains]

If you can't take any more of the abuse and coercive control, and the 'wrestling' was unwanted physical contact, and you need support to put him out of your home, then yes you can call the police for help.

Key words: unwanted physical aggression; emotional abuse; coercive control; need him gone now.

I think you need support, yes.

[honeyytoast]

Or do you feel able to kick him out and have someone over to stay with you?

[SengaMac]

It doesn't sound like a police matter but you need to dump him.
He's a nasty bully.

[funnylittlefloozie]

If "cunt punted" means physically assaulted, then yes, phone the police and have him removed, make a statement and support prosecution.

[CheekyFuckerHQ]

Is it your home OP or do you share it together?
Do you have somewhere else safe that you can go?

[PurpleDaisies]

Have you got children? Is there anywhere safe you could leave to?

[user165423256322]

Coercive control is a police matter. If op wants their help.

[ShrimpSymphony]

No idea what cunt punted is but it sounds like something I would call the police for

[Runforyourlifeitsagherkin]

Cunt punted?? Please tell me he never kicked you in the groin..

[Embracelife]

Verb.cunt-punt. (slang, vulgar, transitive) To kick (a female) in the groin.

Did he do this?
Then if is assault. Call 999

[Whatthebloodyell]

Do you mean that he kicked you in the genital region? Then yes, call the police and please break up With him.

[Anordinarymum]

I just looked it up and cunt-punting means being kicked in the crotch so no bruising shows.


I would call the police. Never mind the rest of the abuse. I've never heard anything so shocking and I have been around the block as they say

[Gazelda]

You will be you again. In fact, you could be a stronger version of you.
If you're not happy, then leave him.
I don't know what 'cunt punted' is, but if it's a form of physical violence then yes, call the police.

[HastySlander]

Assume by ‘cunt punting’ you mean he kicked you hard between the legs? That is assault OP. Is there somewhere you could go tonight? He’s vile and you’re worth so much more. You will be yourself again when you get away from this repulsive excuse for a human being.

[Hopelesslydevoted0]

I'm sorry my post is everywhere, my head is everywhere. I was shaking and crying writing it and reading it back now im away from him in the kitchen its a mess. I have children, one is his. The post doesn't put across how he treats me or how much it affects me. Its so hard to put into words. I just want to be away from him. I have nowhere to go and its a joint tenancy rented house

[PrawnofthePatriarchy]

If he's assaulted you then please call the police.

[Embracelife]

Go to a Nd e get yourself checked where he kicked you.
Tell them everything. Ask for domestic violencd support

[Hopelesslydevoted0]

I didnt know what it meant either, he told me when he did it. I was mortified and still am. I dont know why im still here :(

[PrawnofthePatriarchy]

At least if the police come they'll take him away and give you time to decide how to go forward.

[PurpleDaisies]

He had assaulted you tonight with children in the house.

This is a police matter.

[HastySlander]

@Hopelesslydevoted0

I didnt know what it meant either, he told me when he did it. I was mortified and still am. I dont know why im still here :(

Deep breaths. So you have children and a joint tenancy. Do you work? Do you have savings? I know you’ve said you have no where to go but do you have any friends or family you could turn to or talk to tomorrow? You need to start making a plan to leave but I think you know that. Unmumsnetty hug