I ended my abusive marriage just over 2 months ago. He was verbally, emotionally and occasionally physically abusive. He has now already moved on with someone else, which has rather pathetically broken me a second time round.
I've shared some of this with my family and very close friends. I have shared the physical abuse with just one person, outside my family. I cant bear to speak the names he called me to my parents.
But people make assumptions. When I tell them about how difficult he has been they will say things like 'gosh he is such a good guy' or 'breakups really make people act up' or 'at least at heart he is a good guy'. And I want to scream at them. No this guy has systematically destroyed me. He has taken me apart bit by bit and has now skipped off into the sunset. He has pinned me to a door by my neck, and blamed me for getting upset with him. He has called me the foulest things and is now blaming me. He has made me feel like a crazy person, and smiles and plays the victim to everyone around him.
How much should I say to people. Because I'm fed up of covering up for this foul bloke.
He is a bully. He is abusive. He is controlling. He is a narcissist. He has destroyed me.
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Abusive relationship breakdown - how much did you share with others
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StartingAgainat31 · 12/09/2020 11:43
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