Our parents separated over 10 years ago. Mum isn’t interested in meeting anyone new and devotes herself to her grandchildren, my sister’s 2 dcs.
Dad recently told us he’s been dating someone who he’s serious about. They’ve known each other about a year and after lockdown, dad introduced us to her. I like her, she seems kind and most importantly, makes dad happy.
But my sister is absolutely horrible to her. Barely acknowledges her and is bullying dad into ending the relationship. Unfortunately dad has a blind spot when it comes to my sister because she was quite poorly as a child (preemie) although she’s not had any repercussions as an adult. Dad had said he’d try and help her buy a house before he met his new partner but now he’s not sure he’ll be able to afford to after all. She is furious and blames his new partner although I doubt she has anything to do with it.
Frankly I am ashamed of how my sister is behaving. Yes I get that she’s disappointed about not being able to upgrade her house but she currently lives in a nice place albeit smaller than she’d like. I can’t believe that she’s actually putting her selfish needs ahead of dad’s happiness.
Our mum doesn’t want dad to move on either and so between them, they’re making dad’s life miserable. He’s really down about it and I’m worried that the stress is going to get the better of him and he’ll lose his partner because of it. This has happened before with a previous girlfriend and I have to confess that I was also miserable to her and don’t blame her for leaving in the end. But I learnt my lesson because dad was so sad after she left and I felt ashamed of not being a supportive daughter to my dad and wanting him to be happy.
How can I get my sister to see that she’s effectively making dad make an impossible decision. Basically she’s saying it’s her or his partner and I think that’s really unfair.
WWYD?
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Ashamed of my sister
Clumpernickle · 11/09/2020 19:12
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