My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 18 months and see each other twice a week.
I need sex to feel desired and appreciated, and I believe it is an important part of a relationship, but it seems that it is always me initiating or wanting it. When I initiate, he usually goes along with it unless he is super tired, and is a very attentive lover and makes sure I cum first etc. My boyfriend has a busy and stressful job, which I appreciate can reduce sex drive, but since WFH due to covid with the lack of commute I thought things might pick up. Something I have noticed is that on numerous occasions he has apologised after he has cum - I wonder if he is embarrassed about not lasting longer or something? He does also sometimes have to ask me to go slower so that he doesn't cum too quickly. Could his reticence be to do with lack of confidence? (I am not especially sexually experienced so I may have totally got this wrong)
On the last two occasions that we have seen each other, I have deliberately not made any moves and - surprise surprise - neither has he. I am wondering how long to wait it out before addressing this with him.
All other aspects of our relationship are great - he is very caring, tactile and affectionate, prioritises me etc. I am just worried that his behaviour around this means that he doesn't fancy me/enjoy sex with me.
Any thoughts?
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Always me initiating sex...should I be worried?
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realist252 · 11/09/2020 04:14
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