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Sad I'll never have a passionate snog again!

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SugarAddiction Thu 10-Sep-20 22:40:50

Married forever, kids grown and left home. Marriage hasn't been the best but we've both mellowed as time has passed.

DH & I have little in common but get on ok I suppose. We rarely spend any leisure time together, and don't have many couple friend that we socialise with. No sex for a long time, down to me going off it years ago & we never got our groove back.

Neither of us would end the marriage, so that won't happen but God I am quite sad I won't ever have a passionate snog again.
I feel like I have forgotten how to kiss! sad

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Greeneyes78 Thu 10-Sep-20 22:43:55

god i couldn’t think of anything worse op.

can you talk to him, tell him how you feel? would you even want to kiss him?

Sickoffamilydrama Thu 10-Sep-20 22:44:52

Blimey OP are you sure you should still be married?

My DH & I don't get much time together as 3kids ranging from 4-13 years old take most of our time & energy so don't get many passionate moments but we still do have them.

SoulofanAggron Thu 10-Sep-20 22:51:07

Are you attracted to him?

If so, you could start with a little peck on the lips, and go from there.

What you describe doesn't sound like living your best life in general, though.

Chickoletta Thu 10-Sep-20 22:53:46

Just snog him and see what happens?

SugarAddiction Thu 10-Sep-20 22:54:58

Sometimes I feel attracted towards him, others not.

I'm not unhappy in my day to day life, just a bit sad because I really want that feeling of being kissed but I don't particularly want it to be him kissing me!

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Emmie12345 Thu 10-Sep-20 22:55:52

I felt like this op

Then ended my marriage and met the love of my life . You don’t have to stay in a passionless relationship

Welshgal85 Thu 10-Sep-20 22:56:08

Have you talked to him about this? If you both want to make the relationship work then maybe relationship counselling could help? A counsellor may be able to help you build back the intimacy.

Holdingtherope Thu 10-Sep-20 22:57:11

I feel the same hard isn't it

Oh just snog someone. The world wouldn’t end.

SugarAddiction Thu 10-Sep-20 22:59:06

Haven't broached it with him. He's not one for deep emotional stuff and I feel too much time has gone past now to try & rekindle and not sure I want to.

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Margotshypotheticaldog Thu 10-Sep-20 23:00:30

I feel the same too. Sometimes it makes me sad, but my life is extremely fulfilling in other ways. I have other passions now. Maybe that is just the way life goes.

Gladysthesphinx Thu 10-Sep-20 23:00:31

Why do you stay married? Is it financial?
It sounds like a house share with a house mate you’re not very keen on.

SugarAddiction Thu 10-Sep-20 23:00:47

@Holdingtherope, yes it is.

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SugarAddiction Thu 10-Sep-20 23:02:12

Yes, financial reasons @Gladysthesphinx.

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Emmie12345 Thu 10-Sep-20 23:02:21

So change it , op

Life is short , live it how ypu want

SecretOfChange Thu 10-Sep-20 23:04:22

Of course it's sad! You have to do something about it!

SugarAddiction Thu 10-Sep-20 23:06:13

@Margotshypotheticaldog, yes we are tending to go our own ways, with our hobbies etc.

I don't think either of us are desperately sad, just resigned to this is how it is and making the best of it. As I say, we get on ok but that's possibly because we spend very little time together.

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Katiefizz Thu 10-Sep-20 23:19:43

I just think if sometimes you feel attraction to him and it's a case of being unsure how it would go if you try to reconnect..... If he's your only option.... is it a definite no from you?

SugarAddiction Thu 10-Sep-20 23:48:49

Yeah it pretty much is a definite No @Katiefizz.

Whilst I do find him attractive sometimes, I just can't imagine getting it on with him these days!

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OhYeahYouSuck Thu 10-Sep-20 23:54:04

Emmie12345

I felt like this op

Then ended my marriage and met the love of my life . You don’t have to stay in a passionless relationship

Same here.

bellinique Fri 11-Sep-20 00:13:17

Emmie12345

I felt like this op

Then ended my marriage and met the love of my life . You don’t have to stay in a passionless relationship


Could I please ask how long you've been with your new partner?

BewilderedDoughnut Fri 11-Sep-20 01:06:42

Life is too short for this!!

Find someone who you want to snog every minute of every day if that’s what you want. Don’t settle for less.

Oblomov20 Fri 11-Sep-20 01:48:13

I think you'd be surprised how many people are in this situation. Who can't /don't want to leave their marriage for financial reasons. You see it all over the relationship Boards. They tick along with a Dh who is pleasant enough.

The alternative is to be divorced, then having to live in a vile flat, in a not pleasant area, miles from dc secondary school. On your own, no one to share life with, no one to fall back on, no one to listen to your day.

It's not a very appealing option. And then everyone on mn says oh but it's more important to be true to yourself. But actually the practical side, what life is actually like after divorce, for many women, is quite grim.

RAOK Fri 11-Sep-20 05:45:54

My best friend was in a long marriage where her husband wouldn’t even kiss her during sex. It makes me so sad to think of that as I absolutely love kissing. She’s now divorced and with a lovely guy she never stops snogging!

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