Hello.
I've wanted to write this so many times but haven't been able to put it into words really. I have an old school friend who I've known for nearly 30 years. We grew up together and she was my bridesmaid too. However, she ghosted me for two years a while back - she couldn't deal with my having a baby while she was trying for a third. That was really hard for her and I get it. She got back in touch after that and now we see each other about once a month. However, she has loads of other friends and I think I just get shoehorned in. She never seems hugely interested in my life or my family; when I'm with her she mostly just talks at me about her life and her indignations about various people and things. I always come away feeling really inadequate and I worry (probably rightly) that she talks about me negatively to other people too. I guess I don't trust her really. And I do like hearing about her life, but I just don't think she cares about mine. The other day, I dropped off a stairgate at her house that she asked if she could borrow- she didn't say thank you and told me she had other people round for lunch so I could just leave it in the porch if she didn't hear the bell from her garden.
So, I just need to let it all fade really. So I can stop feeling so shit about it! I've tried before but always end up feeling guilty and then then I crack and get in touch with her again. How can I be stronger and not doubt myself?
Please be gentle because I feel horrible enough about all this as it is!
Thank you for making it this far.
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Please can you help me ditch my friend?
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AngelicaElizaAndPeggy · 10/09/2020 10:10
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