Hi everyone,
My ex husband and i broke up 18 months ago after an incredibly abusive and awful 12 year relationship. We have two boys, 9 and 5yrs. We stayed living in the same house for a while for financial reasons, but very early this year there was an incident and i had to leave the house overnight with the kids. Thus followed many months of litigation and awful awful stress, thankfully the boys and i found a little rental house and have been happily curled up in it over lockdown whilst this has all been going on. My ex does see the boys regularly and is a good, if someone stern dad.
Towards the end of last year a friend i have had for 16 years and i became close and as a total surprise fell in love. He's been unendingly supportive and i don't know what i'd have done without him these last 10 months. We do see ourselves being together for the long haul. He knows my kids as he's been my friend for so long. For the last 7 months he's been spending time with us (me and the boys) but we've been very careful - he sleeps in the spare room and we are not openly affectionate in front of them etc. We've all had a very turbulent time and i didn't want to overwhelm them.
Mercifully the boys are very happy and seem very content with their 'new setup' moving between us, and are back at school etc. They get on really well with my new partner. I want to now explain in very low level terms that he's my boyfriend so we can start sleeping in the same room etc but i have no idea how to do this! Anyone got any advice? I don't know literally what words to use, or how to move him out of the 'friend zone' he's in in their eyes and to being something more, without changing the lovely dynamic we all have between us.
I'd be really grateful for any advice.
Thanks!
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Mrsbiscuits81 · 08/09/2020 12:01
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