I'm really struggling with the end of things with a guy I was dating last year and what he said is going round and round my head to point I have lost all faith in myself and am seriously worried I'm getting clinical depression over it.
Met online,dated for few months,he seemed keen.I then discovered he was in fact still married (but in process of a divorce) whereby he said he wasn't looking for a relationship, wasn't ready,seemed miserable with his situation and clearly not over ex. So I left him to it and said if he ever felt ready and I was still single to contact me. He didn't seem to want to let me go though and I suspect wanted to use me a shoulder to cry on /keep me on a string,which I was definitely not going to be so off I trotted although stupidly I hoped he'd come back when he had his head sorted as I really fell for him.
So over 6 months later on Christmas day he texted to let me know effectively that I was not his type of person and he wasn't interested and he hoped I could find a man that would like me.It was basically a fuck off text, unsolicited dumping, whatever you want to call it.I couldn't believe someone could do this-firstly over text and secondly on Xmas day, especially since I hadn't contacted him at all.
Thing is (and maybe I'm too sensitive) what he said is going round and round in my head and making me miserable. He basically lied when he said he didn't want a relationship and clearly he just didn't want one with me.Why he felt the need to text I don't get,and his text was so patronising and I am convinced there is some major defect in my personality or looks now.It's actually got to the point that this rejection is all I'm thinking about and ruining my life even though it was months ago.I've been rejected before and never had this reaction.I just can't see myself ever dating again and no man will like me.
I dunno what I'm looking for...just I guess has anyone been in a similar situation and dug there way out of the hole of misery and how?
I really liked him to but I guess he wasn't what he seemed.....
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Man's rejection is ruining my life
Froggytog · 07/09/2020 16:27
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