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Where are all the decent men?

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Hellokitty198 Mon 07-Sep-20 13:15:07

Another failed relationship with a twat.

About to give up. But I can’t. Im mid 30s and want a loving supportive husband and family.

Help.

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Happyfrappe Mon 07-Sep-20 17:49:00

If you find out, let me know will ya? Thanks

UtterSocks Mon 07-Sep-20 18:35:15

Well they aren't on dating apps! I've looked hard enough

AnaViaSalamanca Mon 07-Sep-20 18:46:31

What are your hobbies OP? Do you date primarily online?

managedmis Mon 07-Sep-20 18:47:58

Friend of a friend? Friends husbands mates?

galgaf12 Mon 07-Sep-20 19:10:11

Married

NameChange84 Mon 07-Sep-20 19:13:47

They seem to already be married sad

Shayelle2009 Mon 07-Sep-20 20:40:22

I agree not on dating apps 😂

amieejust Mon 07-Sep-20 20:42:50

Married or gay.

Heatherjayne1972 Mon 07-Sep-20 20:47:44

I think they’re either spoken for or gay ( and therefore not interested in a straight woman)

Let me know where they’re hiding op if you find one
I want one too

anotherdisaster Mon 07-Sep-20 20:52:48

Sadly OP if we knew that we wouldn't be on here. I still think there are some, just harder to find sadly.
I think they are harder to find as we get older too because:
1. they're mainly taken
2. we don't settle anymore

StormBaby Mon 07-Sep-20 20:58:56

Well I picked up someone else’s cast offs after she ran off with his best mate. We are now married after meeting online and he is AMAZING. Lord knows what she was thinking. 😂
He’s good looking, hardworking, emotionally intelligent, honest, apologises when he is wrong, buys me flowers twice a week, pulls his weight at home, is a great dad and stepdad. He’s been an annoying twat lately and made some stupid decisions, and he’s worked on it and made changes to himself without me even having to ask.

They do exist, honest!

anotherdisaster Mon 07-Sep-20 21:10:19

Actually yes they do exist. I know 2 single ones who seem really decent. I don't fancy them though!!!

ghostmous3 Mon 07-Sep-20 21:18:57

They do exist. I found one 2 years ago..he was long term single and we are both 40 odd

He can be a twat at times..who isnt. I am and I have many faults but we muddle along and i adore him.

But we met at work and bonded through a shared hobby outside of work and that helped enormously

Catforaheadrest Mon 07-Sep-20 21:23:13

They do exist 😁 one of the MOST eligible bachelors I know only met his now wife about about 31-32. I’m early 30s and some of my friends are getting divorced... some may come back on the market!

But seriously - how do you... errr... find your dates?

Bluezoo123 Mon 07-Sep-20 21:36:13

Yes please if someone knows where any decent single men are hiding I'd like to know!I refuse to go back on the dating apps so how the hell are you meant to meet someone in real life?especially with Covid still an issue!

Wondersense Mon 07-Sep-20 22:01:05

It's posts like these that make me think there is still a real market for personalised matchmaking services - as in, I interview lots of men, do criminal checks on them like an employer would etc, and then send them your way! No idea how it would really function as a business though or more importantly, where I'd get the men from!

NameChange84 Mon 07-Sep-20 22:09:40

It's posts like these that make me think there is still a real market for personalised matchmaking services - as in, I interview lots of men, do criminal checks on them like an employer would etc, and then send them your way! No idea how it would really function as a business though or more importantly, where I'd get the men from!

I’d definitely be interested in such a service. DBS and Marriage Certificate checks would weedle out the abusers and cheaters. Having an outside eye set up a few dates with suitable people with similar values.

Certain religions and ethnic groups do still have a matchmaker or introductions bureau and I know of many success stories. OLD isn’t for everyone but it’s also increasingly hard to meet single people offline. What’s a serious woman to do?!

Wondersense Mon 07-Sep-20 22:19:20

NameChange84

*It's posts like these that make me think there is still a real market for personalised matchmaking services - as in, I interview lots of men, do criminal checks on them like an employer would etc, and then send them your way! No idea how it would really function as a business though or more importantly, where I'd get the men from!*

I’d definitely be interested in such a service. DBS and Marriage Certificate checks would weedle out the abusers and cheaters. Having an outside eye set up a few dates with suitable people with similar values.

Certain religions and ethnic groups do still have a matchmaker or introductions bureau and I know of many success stories. OLD isn’t for everyone but it’s also increasingly hard to meet single people offline. What’s a serious woman to do?!

I've thought of doing it before, but I would be absolutely terrified of not realising a man was a weirdo or someone dangerous. It would feel terrible, and on the business side, would have no idea what kind of insurance would even cover me for matchmaking services! No idea what to charge either!

ilikemethewayiam Mon 07-Sep-20 22:30:13

Lots of married men aren’t decent either as MN can testify! I have no idea where they are OP. Sorry can’t help on this one.

Fairycake2 Mon 07-Sep-20 22:40:49

I'd like to find one but can also confirm they are not on OLD 😂

Dazzedandconfused Mon 07-Sep-20 22:44:06

My friend and I was talking about this earlier! We agreed that good guys in their 30s are probably taken so we should probably extend our search to 40 somethings as they may be recently separated or divorced by then grin

missmouse101 Mon 07-Sep-20 22:48:54

I know a lovely one. He refuses to do OLD, is 28 and keeps chickens! Would love to help him find someone but he can't bear the whole dating shenanigan. He's truly wasted. sad

Krazynights34 Mon 07-Sep-20 22:49:55

I was going to say...in test tubes waiting to be developed but that’s harsh (and I have a naughty sense of humour).
I’m married but hey... let me know if you ever find out!

Notapheasantplucker Mon 07-Sep-20 22:52:17

They're a rare species

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