just looking for opinions really.
I have been with my husband for 15 years and we have a daughter, we are very happy and all is good. We get on well with my husbands cousin and his wife. Until he cheated on her, she is pregnant and due to give birth in a couple of months. He basically told the whole family that she is cold and distant and things have not been working out. Turns out non of this is true, he has been sleeping with someone else since his wife got pregnant and he has now left his wife. He doesn't like to look like the bad guy, so lies to make himself look better.
I have remained friends with his wife, and because of this my husbands aunty, uncle and (all male ) cousins have cut me out of there life. They have also dropped his wife of 15 years and welcomed the new woman in without a thought. Now I personally think this is disgusting behaviour from all of them, and I am disappointed in how they have treated his wife. Makes me think if I would be so easily replaced too.
So yesterday I was out with friends and I saw the new girlfriend, she was honestly giving me the dirtiest look. I ignored it the first time, and the second time I asked her what she was looking at. She turned away and I went to take my seat. 20 minutes in to eating, she came out her her way to walk directly past my table, we didn't say anything and we let it be. another 20 minutes went by and she did the same again. She was staring at me with the dirtiest look on her face, and her face all screws up. So I asked her what her problem was. At this point she started shouting and asking what my problem was 🙈 and said I was disgusting. So I took my opportunity to remind her what her and her new boyfriend had done to a pregnant woman, and I think she is disgusting. I never raised my voice like she did.
With 10 minutes my husbands aunt and uncle turned up at the venue, and his uncle was screaming in my face and pointing his finger in my face, telling me to stay out of his family business or else. The only thing I did was to hold my hand to my face, as his finger was so close to my eye. And I said to him, leave the table. I never raised my voice. He then whacked my arm away from me and again told me to keep my nose out or else, were his world. They were then asked to leave the place by management.
Now I know they will lie about their behaviour, and probably say I did something really unreasonable. Now I hold my hands up to the fact that I did ask her what she was looking at in the first place. But I have not done anything wrong and I don't expect to be out in public getting dirty looks off someone I don't know.
I don't really know how to proceed as I don't want to cause my husband any grief with his family, but I don't take kindly to being bullied by them.
Sorry for the long post, I don't really feel I can speak about this to anyone I know with it being a family issue.
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Lilly1980 · 06/09/2020 16:25
I struggle to imagine a world where I notice "dirty looks", much less go and ask a stranger why they are looking at me!! It all sounds like a Jeremy Kyle sort of drama doesn't it?
The uncle was absolutely out of line. The new gf was out of line.
And so were you - next time, when faced with someone who has already proven they're not arsed about being an awful person, don't go up to them in public and ask them why they're looking at you 
talk about stoking the drama. You must have absolutely thrilled her, taking the bait like that.
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