New username as rejoined after a break and want to be anonymous for this.
Together ten years, married for 4. 2DC.
He's two years older than me. So not ancient!
I think he would be fine with it if we never bothered having sex ever again. I always initiate, he agrees maybe 1-2 times per month. It makes me feel so unwanted that I stopped asking. Then it happens even less. When it does happen it is routine and boring for me (especially because I had to ask, which is such a passion killer). There is no porn or other women (I am 100 percent sure). He just isn't interested in that side of life anymore.
In every other aspect our relationship is great. I love him dearly and don't want to split but it's making me resentful and sad. I've talked to him about it and he makes an effort for a bit but then it goes back to normal.
I'm bored to tears in that dimension and feel like I've no option but to resign myself to this being it. I've maybe what, ten years before hormones change and I lose interest in it myself?
Can anyone honestly tell me if this is normal for a thirty something man / marriage and should I just get over it? I feel like the rest of my youth is slipping away and I'm really missing out on this side of it.
I've considered asking him for an open relationship but I know that it won't work as I get attached to people (sex = bonding hormone!) and I don't want to ruin our marriage.
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Everything else is fine - am I being petty (TLDR: DH doesn't want sex)
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thirtyfuckingfive · 06/09/2020 12:48
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