does the ex want me back?

(17 Posts)
Bingowings24 Sun 06-Sep-20 09:30:32

hi hope someone here can help me i was with my ex for 12 years we have kids together so are in contact alot she spends alot of time at my house as our kids live with me she has 2 other boys (not mine)they come to my house to i dont mind at all them coming we get on quite well talk alot etc she stays over (downstairs) my gut says there's something there .should i just ask her outright? I look after her boys sometimes when needed again i don't mind doing this at all im a bit stuck i don't want to "rock the boat" as such by saying anything but I'd love to no for sure any ideas or suggestions would be great thanks

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seensome Sun 06-Sep-20 09:41:33

I can't tell by what you say, maybe she just wants to be friendly for the kids, unless she seems to like you in that way, only way you would know for sure is to ask.

Didntwanttochangemyname Sun 06-Sep-20 09:43:40

Do you want her back?

MissSmiley Sun 06-Sep-20 09:44:58

I have questions...

How long since you split?
Why do your boys live with you?
Who initiated the split originally
How old are the children?

Bingowings24 Sun 06-Sep-20 09:53:52

Hi yes I'd like to have her back its been 5 years since we split she iniated it my kids live with me due to past issues through mental health our kids 3 teens and an 11 year old her 2 are 3and 6

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MissSmiley Sun 06-Sep-20 10:09:38

Are her mental health issues under control now?

MissSmiley Sun 06-Sep-20 10:11:24

Is this a same sex relationship? Not that it really matters but just interested


Bingowings24 Sun 06-Sep-20 10:12:05

Oh yes very much so

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Bingowings24 Sun 06-Sep-20 10:12:59

No man (me) woman

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MissSmiley Sun 06-Sep-20 10:22:32

Do men even worry about bingo wings?

MissSmiley Sun 06-Sep-20 10:24:33

It would definitely be worth having a conversation with her about it, I asked my ex (separated 3 years I left) if he wanted to get back together (married 22 years, 5 kids) he said he didn't, I'm fine with that, I've met someone new but I needed to know if he was holding out for a reconciliation, we're in a good place and good friends

Bingowings24 Sun 06-Sep-20 10:28:41

Yeah think I might do that

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MissSmiley Sun 06-Sep-20 10:31:58

How old are you both?

Bingowings24 Sun 06-Sep-20 12:25:32

I'm 43 and she is almost 40

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KeepingPlain Sun 06-Sep-20 12:28:58

You may as well ask her, but be prepared for a no and accept that.

Nanalisa60 Sun 06-Sep-20 12:39:03

I think the question you need to ask is would you want her back!

I think it nice that you get on , and that you see and look after all the kids!!

But there must have been a reason you split up!!

Alwaysinpain Sun 06-Sep-20 12:42:36

Hang on, her 2 boys who aren't yours, are 3 & 6 but you split up 5 years ago? Forgive me if I've misunderstood, but did she cheat then? Or am I not thinking straight?

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