I have no idea where it's come from, but since having DD I've been less and less sexually attracted to DH, and in the past few months I have noticed that almost everything he does irritates me. He's had a bad cough recently and keeps doing that horrible hocking up phlegm thing, which makes me feel sick everytime he does it. It's snowballed from there, and now everytime he comes near me I just want to push him away. Little things that didn't bother me now really wind me up. I used to love that he was so passionate about his career and making sure what he did at his job was perfect, whereas now I just wish he'd shut up about work because it's turned into moaning about how everyone else at work does everything wrong. The way he'd mishear what I say used to make me smile, now I just get annoyed. I used to think it was sweet how he'd give me advice when cooking, whereas now I just want him to leave me alone to get on with it myself.
I've come across the "ick" before, but that's been during dating. How do I work through it in a marriage? We had sex for the first time in months the other night, and I was able to pretend all was fine (I don't want sex with him but I feel bad for him because he's always horny, so it's a case of fake it till I make it) but I had to stop after 5 minutes as I got the noise of him hocking stuck in my head and felt sick.
I don't want to throw our relationship away just because I suddenly find a lot of things he does repulsive. It's not his fault, he hadn't changed, it's me. I've also realised that a lot of our relationship seemed to revive around sex and now that our sex life is pretty much non-existent it feels like our marriage is down the pan. Any advice on how I can fix this?
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How to get past the Ick in a marriage?
JammyGem · 05/09/2020 17:49
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