will do this in bullet points as I'm so drained.
Exwife claimed husband was a druggy and took all their money.
Husband very clever at claiming ex was nuts and all the usual manipulative shit to make me believe it. Stupid on my part.
Turns out ex was right. Husband has been cutting money off my parents rent (we rent off them) to buy cocaine since march.
While they were shielding (we live on a side bit). And myself and them were doing everything right down to washing bloodu shopping to ve safe.
I was pregnant. Had baby three amd a half months ago. And a toddler by him, two years old.
April I developed covid like symtopms. Daughter got seriously ill a week later.
Contacted yesterday by local hospital as they believed I had it while pregnant and want me to accept information being part of study.
He claimed he was so worried for us all being safe he didn't see his children from previous marriage beyond distanced meetings. (Yet could pick up drugs...)
My dad got seriously ill not long after my son was born. We nearly lost him multiple times. He was in hospital for three months beyond the odd night home.and an ambulance back a day or two later.
All along he watched us collapse in grief.
Husband when it all came out threatened suicide when i asked him to leave.
I then took it upon myself to message his ex and let her know how sorry I was for believing his version, and also my health visitor and social services directly.
I want all to know i had no knowledge or part in this.
Health visitor and gp are very supportive of me. Social services said I done the right thing.
Yet something sticks in my mind (I have a history of depression) . They keep asking how my.mental health is. I'm fine as far as fine can be with all thst has happened. But it feels like they are looking at us both like we are potential bad parents. I get they need to be careful. But its scared me.
Husband is so manipulative he took his ex to court for access to their kids and won. Poor woman demanded a hair strand test and he used his words to avoid it.
I can't even get him to leave as much as i want him to.
Exwife said he never done therapy and that with her - so a tiny bit of ke feels hopeful as he is doing that now along with a list of things I asked. But reality is - I know he won't change.
He isn't an awful father. But isn't a father I would feel happy with leaving my children longer thsn a few hours with. He proved thst when my dad was in hospital.
What the fuck do I do? Atm I am on the sofa while the bedroom door (open and leads off lounge) is open and he is playing father of the year with the odd jab at me towards them. But I know if i go in there je will start and I don't want them to see that.
Meant to bs our bloody wedding anniversary tomorrow as well :(
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