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Utter tosser of a neighbour contempt on driving us out!!

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Smokedham101 Tue 01-Sep-20 21:57:16

It’s all came to a head tonight...to give some background... Jesus where do I begin. Currently living in a 3 bed terrace wedged between two horrible neighbours, they both spend all day at home due to the fact they are retired and quite honestly have nothing better to do with their lives than making futile and frankly malicious attempts to drive me out. Kids are already to scared to go in the garden. We’ve been living here for 5 years, and working from home during lockdown with kids home all day has made it all progressively worse. Both neighbours are very unfriendly, although the one on the left has never addressed whatever issues he has had to my face he’s been very vocal to my landlord using some abhorrent names. The one on the right really is a piece of work it’s like he spends all day scheming, so far in the last 6 months alone he’s called cps they came over checked kids etc everything’s fine put it down as a malicious report he’s phoned the rspca saying our dogs were being abused guess what? All clear, he’s phoned the council on us... all clear.. He’s constantly attempting to intimidate me to do things on my property as if he has any say so... I.e last month children and I lit a small fire in the back garden to toast some marshmallows it as a nice night he marched outside shouting and screaming demanding me to “put the fucking fire out” it was 5pm and they had also had one that day. Or last week he said that I “better move the fucking flower pots or he will get us kicked out” apparently their attracting bees? seriously it’s two pots how many can they really attract? He’s constantly climbing a stepladder and leaning his head over the wall every time we’re out as if to inspect what to rant about this time. Every time I refuse to do his never ending list of ridiculous requests he calls up the landlord, whom I have a good relationship with so he’s just wasting his time. (Getting to why it has came to a head now) We decided to book up a holiday in north wales we live in the south anyway we left last Tuesday amidst yet another dispute.. at the back of the garden we have a small blackberry bush, it’s useful during lockdown and somewhat kept the kids occupied although they no longer go into the garden anyway he claimed that “ I have to cut it” bla bla the usuall or he will get us kicked out... I explained that whilst I am living here and paying the rent to live here I will be growing the garden as I see fit it was very small and not at all encroaching on his boundary anyway he left in a puff no doubt to give someone a ring nevertheless we left on holiday... when we returned home it was absolute fucking carnage blackberry bush was ripped from its root left all over the ground flowers ripped up deck chair busted growing tree (probs around 4 foot) chopped down. I have never retaliated or reported the pathetic attack of malicious and false complaints as he really is the kind of man who would get very bitter about that sort of things as if it’s fine when he does it but how dare anyone else. Anyway immediately I rang the none emergency number I mean it really wasn’t hard to guess who had done it. The officer I spoke to informed me this was trespass and criminal damage, police officers will be around in the morning. My landlord rushed over and informed me that whilst I was on holiday the man on the right had rang the police (unknown to him we were away) claiming all sorts anyway the landlady informed them we were away and I suppose bloody bastard must have listened in and seized his opportunity I’m just so angry. I have been nothing but respectful, we even rescued his ferrets a while back which escaped from its cage. And in return nothing but utter disregard. Just lost now and really think it’s better off to move but hate the idea of being ran from my own house. Long post I know. Just looking for advice and support. I feel the man next door thinks he’s got some sort of power because he’s a home owner and I’m a single mother.

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Smokedham101 Tue 01-Sep-20 22:01:17

Children are ages 14,13,12. All respectful etc. It really was coming to a head anyway after they went to play in the field out back and came back with “a funny plant” me just thinking it was something trivial until they started saying it “smells weird” when they whipped it out it was a bloody rock of cannabis. When I asked where they got it from they said they found it in a black pencil case in the field... ( turns out it belongs to the adult son of the man next door)

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PotteringAlong Tue 01-Sep-20 22:03:45

You rent. Why are you still there?

Krazynights34 Tue 01-Sep-20 22:09:03

Erm, what?
How is your second post linked to the first?
How do you know the rock/cannabis plant belongs to this man’s son?
Are you looking for advice on this matter or the one re the Rock/plants (which sounds awful- but you’ve called the police and they will deal with it, let’s hope)?

Kabakofte Tue 01-Sep-20 22:10:04

It's not always that simple to just move and why should she. Can you ask the landlord to put up some kind of security camera and possibly sell some kind of injunction??

Summerdayss21 Tue 01-Sep-20 22:15:00

Keep a diary of the harassment and report to the Council. I’m sure the landlord wouldn’t be happy with them driving out tenants. Tell him to get to fuck, he’s a bully.

HowDeeDooDee Tue 01-Sep-20 22:15:24

did the police come round and offer you any advice? what is your landlord doing about criminal damage to his property and his tenants being harassed? if you want to stay there is the LL going to install security lights and cameras?

SissyLongStockings Wed 02-Sep-20 07:02:54

This is going to be a very long drawn out process if you want to stay there. Keep a diary, times, dates, photos every small detail. Log of complaints, copies of them if poss. You can have cameras set up inside your home looking out. They dont have yo be attached to the wall outside. Contact the police and see if someone can help you as to where you go to take further/appropiate steps. Contact the council also and keep in regular contact with them and your Landlord. It really isnt a very nice process to go through and it drains you the constant fear of what they will do next. Personally if you can move-move.

AlwaysCheddar Wed 02-Sep-20 07:48:55

Just move! But tell police first. Log it as harassment. Start recording them.

Smokedham101 Wed 02-Sep-20 10:00:09

Yes have rang police however they still haven’t arrived and it’s been 24 hours so will try to again

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Smokedham101 Wed 02-Sep-20 10:02:09

Hi howdee landlord doesn’t do much as she rrly doesn’t like spending money. Police have not arrived yet.

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Smokedham101 Wed 02-Sep-20 10:05:26

I have decided we will be moving, only reason I haven’t done so before is because we were in the catchment area for a good school so just wanted to get all 3 in a nice high school first. Would have done so months ago, spoken to letting agents they say the market is very slow at the mo and rare when a 3 or 4 bed comes on

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Disfordarkchocolate Wed 02-Sep-20 10:07:20

Get one of these in an upstairs window, just needs an sd card. Link it to your phone and you'll have an easy to access record of anyone in your garden.

Whenonedoorcloses Wed 02-Sep-20 10:26:30

It's horrible when your neighbours turn out this nasty. You need to start a diary, log anything you find out of order, anything at all, take pictures of the damage too if made. Just log it. Unfortunately some people feel they can bully you for whatever reason, or no reason at all. If there is a neighbourhood watch in your area I would speak to them seeing you may be there for a while until you find another place to live. Others on here may be able to assist better than I can. Good luck

BaconsLaw Wed 02-Sep-20 10:28:11

I'm not trying to be a dick, but can you prove who damaged your garden?

Noshowlomo Wed 02-Sep-20 11:43:44

What bastards!!!! Call the police every time he threatens or looks over the wall at you, shouts at you etc. Bully!!

HowDeeDooDee Wed 02-Sep-20 12:32:08

moving will be best in the longrun, you don't need idiots like this in your life and if your ll isn't prepared to tackle the issue then it won't stop. whereabouts are you, do you want us to have a look for you.

yetmorecrap Wed 02-Sep-20 12:39:05

One advantage of renting, get the stuff out. Do you mind me asking— is there any particular reason these people would have it in for you specifically— or were they arses to the last tenant too ? They sound hideous , miserable, nasty minded pricks and at their age are a disgrace hassling you

Oatywitch Wed 02-Sep-20 12:43:52

You shouldn’t have to move. Don’t engage with them. Just refer them to police/council/landlord with any complaint, and report any threatening behaviour directly to the police - they need to be the ones to mediate. You need to remain completely emotionless towards them - and live your life as any normal family would do.

DimidDavilby Wed 02-Sep-20 12:49:00

A rock of cannabis doesn't look anything like a plant? Weird or otherwise.

Chillituallan Wed 02-Sep-20 12:50:27

It’s fairly obvious who damaged the garden, just before we left on holiday he had a go at me about this and that... I come back and everything he fussed about was utterly destroyed? I also have a very high fence at the back and the only way you would have rrly been able to get over is over the neighbours wall. Also looks like tools were used to bring down the tree... not to many people running around with an axe smashing up strangers gardens so!

Chillituallan Wed 02-Sep-20 12:52:38

Yes the particular reason the neighbours would have it in for us is because after we leave the landlord will be selling the property and the guy next door wants it in order to make his larger which is the reason he is trying ridiculously hard to get us out

Chillituallan Wed 02-Sep-20 12:54:41

That would be great, we’re in the Cardiff/penarth area

kidsdrivingmemad Wed 02-Sep-20 12:55:44

Definitely move when a house you like comes up. I know you don't want to give into the bullying but for a happier home life for you and your children I would just move.

notthemum Wed 02-Sep-20 13:15:02

Definitely have to agree with Summerdayss21. I would inform the police and the local council every time. I would put up security cameras and log everything.
I would also tell them that I had considered moving due to their appalling behaviour. However it had been pointed out to me that not only is this bullying but it is also trespass and harassment. As I do not wish my children to grow up thinking this is OK, we will not be moving. And they can fuck off.
But I'm obstinate and petty like that.

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