Im so fucking stupid, i keep listening to other people when i should just do what i right for me.
I had a party that i was invited to but i didnt really want to go but as i was specifically invited by the guest i felt obliged. OH eventually agree to me going an that i go with LO.
We have a pretty toxic relationship where he will just change his mind everytime hes annoyed and just say you cant go or do such and such.
Anyway the day before he was just off with me and constantly trying to pick a fight. I yried not to retaliate, he went off to work and i blocked him on my phone because he has a tendency to send me long messages of hate through his nightshift. He came back in the morning and me and lo were still in bed but i could hear him making a cuppa, then out the front door. I went down started geting ready to for the party and we had go collect my dad who was invited too. I noticed that oh gym bag was gone so realised he went back to work to do over time.
Went to pick dad and he was up to his sly tricks and bacially wasting my time by being slow on purpose, i waited in the carwhile he spent another 30mins faffing.
Got to the party long story short it got to 6pm and i said to dad who looked like he was enjoying him self do you want to stay the night or dad knowing full well i wasnt going to stay, his reply 'oh well you dont tell me anything ' in that sly fucking arrogant tone he does like im to retarted to realise. I walked away because i didnt want to cause a scene. I then told host that i was going to leave soon( host is a family member), host seemed suprised and said i thought you were staying, i said whatever gave you that idea, i never said anything about staying the night. I began to sort LO out, hostcone over to me pleading to stay the night with dad, i was getting pissed and said i have to go home dad can stay I'll come back and collect in morning, even though it was a 3 hour journey. I got to the door to leave, and dad is stood there behind me, so i say why have you got your things your staying, by now a lot of the guests have heard the commotion and are looking, dad doesnt reply and another guest pleads with me to calm down and not to drive in such a state. So i went to the other room and another guest pleads with me to stay at this point im annoyed and say i have an OH and he is expecting me home they kept saying call him an ask so I reluctantly did but no answer (16 calls ),by now it was late so i ended up staying but OH still hasnt returned my calls or replied to messages, i know they've been sent two ticks.
Im stressing out
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