One night stand in foreign country and can't get him off my mind!

[Annabellerina]

I randomly and impulsively went on a date on the last night of my holiday. The date lasted from 8pm to 8am, talking and drinking by the sea, watching the sunrise and then some amazingly hot sex. We both said we felt a strong connection and that it was a shame I was leaving the next day. I had so much fun and felt like I was 20 again! We swapped numbers and have text a couple of times since.

Is this best left as a lovely memory or worth pursuing in any way? Was the connection stronger because we knew it was a one off? I feel like I know that was the reason it was so great but at the same time can't stop daydreaming about him and would love to invite him to come and stay!

[fuandylp]

Probably best left as a great memory.
What does he say in the text?
Which country is it?

I'm very wary of things like this because some blokes in holiday locations are shagging people every week and having an amazing connection with them...

[AmayaBuzzbee]

Which country?

[ivfdreaming]

He's probably married

[FastAndCurious]

Is he from the country you visited or your home country?

[peachypetite]

Enjoy the memory.

[Spied]

I'd keep it as a beautiful memory.
You are very likely to be disappointed when you meet off holiday mode.

[Annabellerina]

He's from a third country - both of us were on holiday! Totally agree that he may be married and/or having amazing connections with different women every week.

[crosshatching]

I always think with these moments that the connection wasn't with him per se, but that he helped you reconnect with yourself and that's the connection you should nurture. You felt free, happy and relaxed with a stranger - it's all there in you, you just gave yourself permission to let go for the evening.
Great to have a good story to tell your granddaughter one day!

[MrsTerryPratchett]

I married mine. And it's worked out swimmingly. Last night of the holiday and everything. Didn't shag him though.

But I think we might be one in a million. And it was extremely difficult. Only worth it if he really is one in a million himself.

[Annabellerina]

I like your way of looking at it @crosshatching
I have a friend who married her holiday romance too. I'm not looking for that, but I have been fantasising about seeing him for the odd weekend here and there!

[Ughmaybenot]

Oooh no, leave it as a wonderful memory. And I agree with PP saying it’s more of a connection with that experience and with yourself in a way.

[Aposterhasnoname]

I married mine too. I’d invite him over if I were you.

[Raidblunner]

Get an STD test

[Annabellerina]

Bit presumptuous @raidblunner! We used condoms.
To the ones who married their holiday flings, how did it happen?

[Annabellerina]

Asking because I like a good story not because I want to marry mine!!

[Lifeisabeach09]

I also love what @crosshatching said and will apply it to an encounter I had.
OP, unless you really feel (from the messaging) that he is interested in something more, I'd leave it as a wonderful memory.

[Annabellerina]

The first text he sent said that he was fine with the time we spent together being it, but that he hoped we could stay in touch and see each other again in the future. I read that as him being vague but open. I responded very breezily because it was the morning after and I'd had no sleep and was feeling mighty pleased with myself. He has since text with chit chat which I haven't hugely engaged with cos I'm not a small talk person!

[RantyAnty]

Leave it as a fun memory.

If you both want to keep in touch, leave it as birthday and holiday greetings type of thing a couple times a year.

[greengreengrass14]

and a pregnancy te...

[tara66]

Be happy.

[MrsTerryPratchett]

We swapped emails, after a few months of chatting I went to his country for a visit, then he came to mine, 18 months later I emigrated. That was over a decade ago.

Immigration BTW is dreadful! I wouldn't wish it on someone. If he wasn't absolutely the one, and I thought that from the first minutes of talking to him, it would not have been worth it.

If you don't like small talk you shouldn't bother!

[Annabellerina]

Ha!

[Annabellerina]

(That was about the pregnancy test!)

[DianaT1969]

Is he in a country that's convenient and inexpensive to get to? If so, I might be tempted to keep in touch and arrange a weekend if he seems keen. You'd need to be sure he's single of course. Better than online dating with UK men who dress in cycling lycra and hold fish in their photos 🤣

[CrazyToast]

It can happen. Just see how it goes. No sense cutting something off just because it is slightly less likely to work out.

I have a very good friend India who I met online 4 years ago, just randomly on twitter. We've met in person 3 times now. He continues to be part of my daily life and we value each other. People would say that was highly unlikely too.