I’ve had an awful 18 months. Fiancé left me out of the blue pretty much, last Christmas. Just before that I’d had an early miscarriage and just after that I lost my job. I’ve since got a better job and on very good pay, but the loneliness is crushing. Obviously being alone in the house is horrible especially as me and ex fiancé lived here for his work mainly, we have no other connections here. I bought him out of the house as I had much more equity in it when we bought it. I’m now selling it but with nowhere to go to yet, still looking. I worry I’m older now (36 early next year) and don’t see a relationship happening with a future anymore.
Then there’s my sister. Met her fiancé at uni, three years younger than me, both have decent jobs, him especially, nice house, wedding planning, looking to move somewhere bigger for the future, and everything is going wonderfully well. She doesn’t have to worry about losing her job as he’d support her and vice versa. She doesn’t have to make big life decisions like moving houses on her own. She has someone there even life goes tits up like this year and she has someone to plan with and be excited about the future. She’s never had someone leave her or been hurt or had money worries or had to fend for herself and been lonely in the way you are in an empty house after being left by someone you thought you’d marry. She’s getting married in the church I was going to. I guess that’s normal but it’s hard.
I know I sound so jealous and I guess I am. I’m happy for her too of course, and that’s genuine, but I find it so hard to talk about all these things happening for her. I hate myself for this but it just triggers off a whole load of pain.
I’m really struggling with it and feel like a terrible person because I’m really being a jealous bitch aren’t I? I feel so broken about life and I cling on each day to carry on my work and friendships etc but it isn’t easy. and yes I’m very much in therapy.
It just feels like I’m doomed to have a lonely broken life while she has literally all the things she could want in life, without having lived any trauma.
Not sure what I’m asking really, just needed to write it down.
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Whatsthatname · 29/08/2020 10:41
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