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DP said a very strange thing tonight ?!

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Underpressure13 Fri 28-Aug-20 20:55:37

DP has called by tonight to hang out for the evening with me and the kids .
When he came through the door the first thing he said was ‘ok so where are these sausage rolls to reheat ?’
Earlier today my mum who was caring for the kids whilst I worked, cooked some sausage rolls and left the remaining ones we didn’t eat in oven for me to reheat for DP and kids tonight.
There’s no way he’d have known of this as both myself , nor my mum have mentioned this to him today and he knew they were in there without being told or even looking . They hadn’t recently been cooked and place didn’t smell of them.
When I questioned him on how he knew, he just said ‘ oh, instinct I guess’ no further explanation shock
Is it strange he said that? I can’t quite work this out !!

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SavoyCabbage Fri 28-Aug-20 20:57:04

Had he phoned/FaceTimed a child?

Quartz2208 Fri 28-Aug-20 20:57:20

are you concerned he is spying on you?

Notsurewhatsgoingon Fri 28-Aug-20 20:57:31

Maybe you forgot you had mentioned it to him earlier?
Has he spoken to one of the kids?

ShiveringCoyote Fri 28-Aug-20 20:57:36

Did your mum text you about the sausage rolls?

Aquamarine1029 Fri 28-Aug-20 20:57:46

He smelled them is the most likely answer.

Squiffany Fri 28-Aug-20 20:57:48

Yes it’s strange.

mnahmnah Fri 28-Aug-20 20:58:21

Hidden cameras.....

Idroppedthescrewinthetuna Fri 28-Aug-20 20:59:01

4 different reasons I have.

1. Has a camera in your home (unlikely)
2. Has hacked your phone - did your mum msg you about them?
3. Psychic?
4. Your mum messaged him about them?

minnieok Fri 28-Aug-20 20:59:04

Did you mention your mum intended to cook them? That said I can tell what was cooked hours later

Crossfitwidow Fri 28-Aug-20 20:59:10

He’s watching you.

Apolloanddaphne Fri 28-Aug-20 20:59:13

I suspect he smelled them and instinctively knew there would be some to reheat.

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett Fri 28-Aug-20 21:00:16

He's either smelled them, bugged the house or he's shagging your mum.

I can smell a sausage roll at 20 paces so hopefully its the first option.

Crossfitwidow Fri 28-Aug-20 21:00:32

I have genuinely never heard of anyone walking into a house, smelling sausage rolls and asking them to be reheated.

kayakingmum Fri 28-Aug-20 21:02:09

I can think of two scenarios:
1. It's the type of thing your mum would do so he made the comment and just hit the nail on the head by coincidence.
2. He popped home for something without being seen and saw the evidence earlier.

It could be either thing or something else.

MalbecIsMyOne Fri 28-Aug-20 21:02:35

From previous posts about him, you’ve had your suspicions about him accessing your phone/his phone secrecy. At a guess, he’s put an app on your phone so he can ready your messages. Did your mum text you about them?

Ghost9525 Fri 28-Aug-20 21:02:40

Do you have a Alexa he has access to you can use them to listen in on people happened to me.

Underpressure13 Fri 28-Aug-20 21:02:52

None of us have been in contact with him
Today , he’s been working from home at his place ( he’s not the kids dad) . I didn’t mention it in any of my messages to him ( I will double check but 99% sure) and I was here with my mum having my lunch break when they were cooked. It’s been 6 hours since then and it was literally the first thing he’d said upon coming in .
I don’t really know what to think - I don’t really want to go down the lines of thinking he’s listening in somehow . It’s just very odd !! confused

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ClementineWoolysocks Fri 28-Aug-20 21:03:34

Even if he could smell sausage rolls why would he immediately assume there were some to reheat? That makes no sense.

Standrewsschool Fri 28-Aug-20 21:03:52


He’s watching you.

This, unless you had mentioned you were planning to cook them, or the dcs had mentioned them.

If he had smelt them, then how he would know they needed re-heating, and wasn’t freshly cooked.

Can you get hold of his phone to see if there’s any spyware apps or programmes on it?

kayakingmum Fri 28-Aug-20 21:04:01


He’s watching you.

That's a really scary thought.

SoulofanAggron Fri 28-Aug-20 21:05:52

Maybe a PP has it right that your mum messaged him.

Psychic about sausage rolls lol- there's a gift. It would make me a bit paranoid, too, that he might have something in the room as a PP said.

When I had an ex that was spying on my email etc, he would make it obvious he was doing it by mentioning stuff I'd mentioned in emails. It was a kind of control/intimidation thing.

What's he like in other ways OP?

sheetspread Fri 28-Aug-20 21:09:19

I think if you can rule out having mentioned it to him yourself and it slipping your mind, and can rule out any text or call (etc) contact with both your children and your mother,* and* there is no particularly** compelling reason why he would assume sausage rolls would have been prepped in the middle of the day on this particular day (or any other), then it's probably not that unreasonable to at least suspect that he's got the house bugged in some way.

With all those more pedestrian explanations ruled out you're basically left with that, or it was a complete coincidence. The latter of which strikes me as relatively unlikely, tbh.

sadie9 Fri 28-Aug-20 21:09:30

Could he have a listening device in your kitchen. You probably discussed reheating them at lunchtime.
The 'reheating' is so specific.

sheetspread Fri 28-Aug-20 21:12:16

I also think that if it were a lucky guess, he'd have been amazed/delighted to have guessed it right, and if it were any of the more boring explanations (eg your mum or a DC let him know) he'd have simply said so without a thought.

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