Hi, I've name changed and I'll try and keep this short.
Been married 25 years, 3 adult children, 1 left home, 2 still at home.
Husband has throughout our marriage been watching a lot of porn, most days and I've been an after thought.
I've asked so many times for him to stop and he might for a few days but then it starts again. He now says it's an addiction and he feels the need to look at it all the time.
So I've always felt second best to this. Add to this that I'm not encouraged to have male friends...well any friends really,I have been given the silent treatment if I get chatting to other men, I joined a running group but was persuaded to give it up as there were men going.
I also have unspoken lists of approved people to talk to and clothes to wear. If I go outside of those things I get the silent treatment or sad face sighing for days.
There are other things but they all alone seem like not much.
So I've decided I've had enough and I've said this is not the life I want anymore, can't afford to split properly at the moment so we are still in the same house and I'm getting tears and sad faces from him because I want a better life for myself.
The 2 children that live at home have no idea about the porn addiction and are both blaming his unhappiness on me.
So am I doing the right thing?
Do I make the best life I can for myself and be happy knowing everyone else isn't or do I try again so everyone else is happy.
My 3rd child doesn't care either way he just wants me to be happy.
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Notthelastjedi · 28/08/2020 17:13
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