New bod here although I've lurked for a fair while.
I'm in a bit of a muddle. I'm late 30's, married for 8 years with a couple of small children.
My relationship is taking a nose dive and I don't know how to fix it. It's my issue as my sex drive has pretty much vanished since we had our second child a couple of years ago.
My husband has taken my lack of drive for disinterest which isn't quite right. I want to want sex but I can't quite get in the right space for it and I can't get back there. I still love him and find him attractive but it just isn't quite there if you see what I mean.
We used to have a great sex life but after our first it dwindled significantly which my husband struggled with as he felt rejected. After the second it pretty much stopped - I think we've done it twice in two years. He's stopped trying to initiate now as he knows nothing is going to happen - when we go to bed it's just "good night", a hug, then sleep.
We still get on fine in every other way and although I'm happily going without, I can see it's really affecting him and is driving us apart. We've talked about it and he desparately wants intimacy in our relationship but doesn't want to do anything I don't want or am not happy with/ready for.
It's got to the stage where he's withdrawing further and further and I'm worried he's going to have had enough and call it a day but at the same time I can't magic my sex drive back. I simply don't know what to do.
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ClimbingTheStairs · 28/08/2020 16:20
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