I’ve posted before about my dsi and dm being abusive towards me over the years dsi has been financially abusive and is over bearing and I suppose controlling but hides it well under the guise of being kind or having people’s best interest at heart
To cut along story short due to lockdown dd 19 came home from university and was hard work and started self harming after a row where I expressed my concerns she left and moved in with dsi. Dd has finally sort help has been diagnosed with depression is on medication and is having counselling the counsellor has identified dsi behaviour as coercive and controlling dd can now see dsi has been subtlety poisoning her mind against me and dh
We have sorted everything out dd is unhappy at dsi and wants to come home but dsi is guilt tripping her and even restricting the time she comes here
Dd is like me doesn’t like confrontation you can never win with dsi she is always right and everything has to be her way. I am extremely upset at how dsi is treating dd and the fact she isn’t encouraging her to come home I just don’t know how to confront things as every single time I end up being the bad person if I discuss it face to face calmly I have verbally abused her if I write a letter or text I send abusive messages It me having a wobbler
I can’t go totally no contact as dc and dh don’t despite knowing what dsi is like she always wins them round and basically they won’t stand up to her
Do I let dd sort this ? Do I say something and risk it being twisted and used against me potentially to dd do I let dh have a word although he’s fuming he is easily manipulated by dsi
They are my family I want to get on with them dm is elderly dsi health is poor but I need them to respect my boundaries and back off
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Sister not allowing my dd to come home
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Alfiemoon1 · 28/08/2020 12:55
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