What do you dislike about the dating culture?

[WomenHour]

Anything

I will start
Feeling the need to go to expensive restaurants

[scoobydoo1971]

The common perception (perhaps driven by dating apps) that people are a disposable commodity. This leads to a lack of manners and good grace. Courtship in modern times is about swiping through strangers generated by algorithms, rather than meeting through community links as we all used to do in the 'oldern days'.

[namechange20202020]

@scoobydoo1971 exactly this! But it's doubly hard now as you can't meet people in social settings because of COVID!

Oh and Ghosting - that sucks

[Understandingnotignorance]

Swiping has made people disposable. It has become so fickle that it's too easy to just move onto the next without actually investing time in some one to find out about compatibility/attraction etc.

[downwardspiral1]

The pressure to become physical very quickly - with what amounts to a stranger.

[OhioOhioOhio]

That people don't make the effort to genuinely communicate and connect.

[Requinblanc]

People being seen as disposable; casual sex; lack of romance/seduction; people who lie on their dating profiles; laziness ; ghosting.

[hilariousnamehere]

The expectation that if you are single, you will date because you must be looking for a partner.

I am, I don't and I'm not but the expectations of people make me weary!

[ALittleBitConfused1]

The men 🤣🤣🤣

[downwardspiral1]

Yes the men - the miserable mug shots taken from under their chin and they seriously look like they belong in a line up, but they like or message you .

Not that I am an oil painting etc, but I have a profile photo in which I look like a happy smiling person.

The flakes.

The people who think you are going to get married because you answered one message.

The fact that at 51 I get people who are almost 70 liking or messaging me.

The messages from men who are in their 20s (I just delete them).

The notion of conjuring a person from an app and then just as quickly ghosting / getting rid of them.

People seeing multiple people at a time.

Just depressing, all of it - and I have just got rid of my account.

[Wondersense]

Yes the men - the miserable mug shots taken from under their chin and they seriously look like they belong in a line up, but they like or message you

Lol. If this is the case then to me it would suggest a lack of self-awareness and emotional intelligence. Maybe in some cases that's a good thing because if a man is abusive, you definitely don't want him to be intelligent enough to hide it !

[downwardspiral1]

No but I guess intelligent and self/emotionally aware would be a good starting point .

I think I am going to give up on the idea of meeting someone as at this age (early 50s) it seems very problematic.

[bathsh3ba]

People messaging based on photo without reading profile, wasting my time and theirs. 100 messages saying 'Hi' followed by asking for a phone number. Have we completely lost the art of conversation? Telling me I'm 'picky' because I don't like them.

[Ceriane]

Ugh, naive smug coupled ups married to their childhood sweethearts ganging up with family members to say “she must be too fussy”. Erm.... you try OLD in your 30s and scared and see how you get on love!

[rosabug]

As an older dater - ageism.

Worse, are the 'slight' ageists: "Man 58 seeks woman 35 - 54"

I have asked quite a few men what they think those missing 4 years signify.