I’m mid thirties, single, wishing I wasn’t and living in a place I’ve wanted to move from for the last year. I own the place and have done for five years, the house is nice but on the edge of a not so nice location outside birmgham...bought so I could hop on the train to work. The last few months I’ve really noticed how shit the area is (it’s not terrible but it’s not a place you want to stroll out of your house and go for a walk..it’s busy) and I have no ties to the area itself...just a tie to Birmingham centre for work where I go in when I please really. My work is computer based so I can do it anywhere.
I took the plunge and put my house on the market last week and now I’m panicking thinking what I am doing, I don’t even know where to go!! I feel like I’m unhappy here but have no real reason to go somewhere else which is quite depressing!
Options are:
- Keep the house, rent it out and move to London and kick the career life even harder, get a better paid job (I’m on good pay already so not desperate for that). The London life seems exciting in some ways but I’m 36 next year and more than fancy restaurants and career opportunities, I much more want to settle down. I don’t fancy city life as I used to live in centre of Birmingham so have sort of done that, but London is an exception as it would be something different I guess.
- Move to another outskirts of a city, but I would literally be upping sticks to Leeds, Manchester, Nottingham, places I don’t actually know anyone and starting from scratch.
- Move further north to the midlands but in a town or village rather than a city. I have a few distant friends in Derbyshire as I grew up there, but again no firm ties except my small family who are elderly. I’d be within distance of a few cities so wouldn’t be out on a limb like in Liverpool and would have more areas to choose to work.
- Disappear to the south to some remote area by the sea.
- Stay where I am and don’t rock the boat just because I’m bored and being a bit bratty. I know a few people in Birmingham but they’re al through work and not firm friends. My friends are scattered all over the country.
Abroad does not appeal.
What would you do? I wish I was with a partner and there was a reason to be somewhere in particular!