Me and DH have been together just over 11 years. DS1 is nearly 10, so you can do the maths...
Since then we had twins (now nearly 5).
Before we got together I'd been in a 5 year relationship with someone else. I was thinking marriage/babies, and then he just turned round one day and declared he didn't love me any more.
2 weeks later I get together with DH on a night out (we had been friends 3 years prior to this), and after 7 months, just as I was about to end things due to us having nothing in common, I found out I was expecting DS1.
We STILL have nothing in common.
He has no interest in me, we have DTD twice in 5 years, he never asks about my day, can't be bothered with birthday presents, isn't that interested in the kids (I went away for a week with the kids to stay with family and not once did he ask how they were!).
The only thing we chat about his his work (we used to work together) but he has no interest in me or anything I do. He likes silence, I play lots of instruments and love music, I love reading, he hates books, he likes war films, I like girly films etc... NOTHING in common.
He even prefers his own company and when he comes in from work always goes straight to see the dogs rather than me and the kids.
I feel lost. I'm 40 and the idea of spending the rest of my life with someone who has so little interest in me is awful.
He is a "nice" person, but as far as he is concerned there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with our relationship because it's ideal for him! He likes doing his own thing!
What do I do?!?! I know staying put is what is best for the kids but is it feasible to spend the rest of my life like this?!?!
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Sunflower14916 · 26/08/2020 18:46
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