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Struggling with my GF

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steeve58 Mon 24-Aug-20 16:59:46

Here is my story. I live with my GF for a year now. I love her and she loves me.

My problem is that she is not interested in having sex with me or any kind of intimacy. We had a moment 4 months ago maybe.
Everytime she rejects me and try to change the subject. Or she says she needs time and I should not expect too much from her.

We have sex only when she initiate it and she seems happy with that.

I didn't have this issue in my previous relationships.

I don't know how I tell her that I love her but I m desperate for affection and intimacy ?

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username501 Mon 24-Aug-20 17:09:47

Have you spoken to her about this OP? Sat down and had a chat outside the bedroom? She may not enjoy having sex with you for some reason and not want to hurt your feelings.

SoulofanAggron Mon 24-Aug-20 17:15:27

Everytime she rejects me and try to change the subject.

So, do you mention it fairly frequently?

PinkiOcelot Mon 24-Aug-20 17:17:08

How old are you both?

steeve58 Mon 24-Aug-20 18:16:06

I did many times. Everytime same answer I need time and space. Don't push me so hard

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username501 Mon 24-Aug-20 18:20:44

Then you're incompatible sexually. This is the way she is and she obviously sees no need to change. I wouldn't stay with someone who kept pushing me away, wanted no form of intimacy and where we had reluctant sex, initiated by them, every four months. For someone else, that might be a dream come true, as they're not particularly affectionate or sexual either.

steeve58 Mon 24-Aug-20 18:21:00

@SoulofanAggron yes I know. Maybe we have different sex drive. But I m trying to be fair all time. I mention it maybe once a week

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Aquamarine1029 Mon 24-Aug-20 18:26:21

It shouldn't be this hard, op. The two of you are not sexually compatible and that is very, very unlikely to change. She may be a lovely person, and you may care for her very much, but that does not mean this relationship will work. It won't. The frustration and resentment that have already started are only going to get worse. You need to end it and move on.

Guavaf1sh Mon 24-Aug-20 19:18:21

Cut your losses and move on. It will only get worse

MitziK Mon 24-Aug-20 19:37:40

steeve58

*@SoulofanAggron* yes I know. Maybe we have different sex drive. But I m trying to be fair all time. I mention it maybe once a week

That's too much.

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