I'm engaged to a man who is suffering with depression. I've been putting off making plans for getting married, because I'm not sure I want to be in this relationship any more.
He works very little, does hardly anything around the house (washes up once a week on average and takes the bins out) and usually sleeps from the early hours of the morning until around dinner time.
Unless I instigate physical contact, I don't think he would even touch me. Sex never happens and he seems to get annoyed when I try to cuddle him. More and more, I find myself actively feeling disgusted with him. (I can give examples if anyone thinks it's important!)
For the last four years or so, he hasn't contributed much financially, sometimes nothing at all, at most 1/4 of our monthly costs.
I don't know how to leave. I don't think he can afford to pay the household bills if I go. I currently cook and do all the cleaning, so no idea what state the place would get into without me here. I don't know where else he could go. He hasn't seen any friend for around 6 years.
Today has just hammered home how unhappy I am. He didn't come to bed until 6am, and is still in bed now, at 10pm. I've been alone all day and I'm fed up of feeling like shit.
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Sad, feeling stuck. How do I get out of this?
BingityBongity · 23/08/2020 22:16
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