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Cupcakesaregood Sun 23-Aug-20 17:34:41

Has anyone thought about having/or had another baby even though their marriage wasn't in a great place?

I feel so alone and I was wondering if there was anyonelse out there who has had another baby to try and help the relationship/marriage

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category12 Sun 23-Aug-20 17:41:43

Babies don't work as sticking plasters for relationships. That's bonkers.

tornadoalley Sun 23-Aug-20 21:18:21

that is an appalling suggestion. How could anyone think a baby would repair a marriage. Poor baby

AnneLovesGilbert Sun 23-Aug-20 21:21:14

When the marriage fails anyway, how is that fair on the child?

SqidgeBum Sun 23-Aug-20 21:23:29

Wow. No way. A child should be brought into a household where the adults work as a team supporting one another, not one where a baby was some sort of remedy for a bad relationship (which never works by the way).

DragonPie Sun 23-Aug-20 21:24:52

Massively unfair burden to place on a child. Why would you do that. Babies aren’t sticking plasters.

foreverhungry2409 Sun 23-Aug-20 21:27:43

Hunni if you feel alone, you need to speak to to someone about it - your partner, family, a friend. Having a baby won't fix what you feel right now and could potentially make things worse if your not in the right mind frame.

malbecchio Sun 23-Aug-20 21:49:32

Oh no @Cupcakesaregood you're still with your husband even after everything with the other woman? Have you had your baby? Please, please find the strength to leave him. You deserve better, your children deserve better.

Dery Sun 23-Aug-20 21:59:29

Hi @Cupcakesaregood

I’ve been wondering how you’re getting on. Has your little one arrived? It sounds like your husband is continuing with his rather cruel, emotionally detached behaviour. Like most people who have followed your previous thread, I think you would be much better off without him but of course it will take you time to get there, especially with two tiny children to look after.

Is your mother still with you and able to help?

beenwhereyouare Sun 23-Aug-20 22:17:00

I've thought of you recently, wondering if you'd had your baby and if you were okay. It doesn't sound like things have improved; I'm sorry you still going through this.

Crumpets4butter Mon 24-Aug-20 11:11:23

Well my relationship is poor and my partner wants another baby. I absolutely won't be doing it. I think it will make things harder not easier.

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