Early day doubts

[mindblogglingstuff]

In the beginning of meeting and getting to know someone I considered to be worth getting to know. Older man
I feel the struggle to be me and not care about being psychology analysed is draining.
For example I'll make a comment and he wants to know who and when.
Thrown in the fact he said I should consider myself " lucky" he is into me, since this comment I feel like although I am worthy my friend suggests letting him know so am I.
When I am text I feel like blocking or saying your to much or am I so untangled in my protective shell or I have to suck it up.
My life's full otherwise, I have male friends I feel this older mans views of me being crazy, over sensitive, He's very stuck on his ways I see already
maybe to much for a 10 year age gap and I'll be best to Run?
He has no idea beyond the scenes I have a chronic health problem which causes my less than hyper moods, tiredness, anxiety
24/7 unlike himself.
I am ready but within respectful boundaries to be with someone.
I need advice be gentle!

[SoulofanAggron]

Thrown in the fact he said I should consider myself " lucky" he is into me

This is an obnoxious, narcissistic comment. It implies he thinks he's somehow better than you. You could bin him for this comment alone, as it's a red flag.

I feel this older mans views of me being crazy, over sensitive

I don't think a 10 year age gap would cause this. What's causing this is him being potentially/already emotionally abusive. He disregards and mocks your feelings, perceptions of what's going on, etc.

He's making you unhappy.

He has to go.

[Anordinarymum]

OP I think posting on here is enough of a flag for you. You know his behaviour is negative. It will only get worse. Give this one a miss. there are so many decent people in this world and you will meet one who does not tell you how lucky you are to have him. Oh Lord what a pratt

[Giraffey1]

He told you that you should consider yourself lucky that he is into you!?
I’d be telling him you aren’t into men with unwarranted massive egos and bin him off.

[TheoriginalLEM]

Run OP, he will use your anxiety against you. He is already trying to erode your self esteem. 'Lucky he's into you - yuck

[ulanbatorismynextstop]

Dump him, you should be happy and excited, not feeling like you're being gas lighted already.

[Antibles]

Lots of red flags already. He is not a nice man at all. If you feel psychologically drained already I strongly suspect you have met a narcissist. Get rid of him. If you find it difficult to get rid of him and can't shake him off, you have definitely got a narcissist on your hands, they hate to lose a potential victim and tend to cling on. Cut off all contact, don't respond to the contact attempts. Good luck, you deserve better.

[mindblogglingstuff]

Thanks everyone for your replies and advice.
I had the chat about my concerns with him
Firstly he apologied the next time he denied it all. (Odd in itself I think)
Claiming to be shocked he would treat me anything but great.
He mentions me confronting him every time I see him like I am to be ashamed.
The continual need to undermine my thoughts and feelings is something I have never experienced.
I find that in itself has me walking away fast.

[Giraffey1]

Good, OP, I am glad you have binned him. You HAVE binned him, haven’t you?